For any woman who has been trying to conceive, finding out she is pregnant is the best news! (Of course, second only to the wedding proposal.) Once the wedding is over and the ceremony and celebration time is set, finding out that the two of you will be expecting a new baby is an amazing feeling for any couple.

New parents tend to get a bit overwhelmed and may have a hard time narrowing down all the “new baby gear” they’re going to need when the baby arrives. Making sure expectant parents have all the major necessities can be a tedious task. Writing out a list of all the things you’ll need for the new baby and then narrowing down the list throughout the months of your pregnancy can help you get a head start on booking.

Baby showers are also a great way to get new baby gear, and can take a lot of financial pressure off new parents. In turn, it helps to reduce the stress of the future parents.

Showers are so much fun for the mom-to-be and the guests. Themed baby showers can be color based (if the baby’s gender is already known, a pink or blue theme is widely accepted and very traditional), character themed baby showers (such as Sesame Street, Powerpuff Girls, The Dexter or the Looney Tunes), or even a “time of day baby shower theme” (where each guest is asked to bring something the baby would need or use during that time of day). Baby shower themes can really be anything you want. Have fun and be creative!

Baby shower gifts should be useful and unique for the new parents. The idea of ​​having a celebration shower is for parents to receive items they need, but may or may not have purchased themselves. A great idea is to create your own baby gift basket, or choose the Laundry Baby Gift Basket filled with clothes for babies from newborn to toddler. Other homemade gift basket ideas include a mother and baby basket (a gift for mother is a nice thing to include), monogrammed baby gift baskets, a pampering baby gift basket (for mom! and Dad too!), a bath time gift basket, or a play gift basket. You can create a gift basket based on anything, really. Simply fill the basket with items that fit the theme of the gift basket.

Do not forget these simple tips to organize a successful shower:

Make sure the party is four to six weeks before the baby’s due date, decide on a theme, make a guest list and send out invitations 2 to 3 weeks before the party, plan any party games for the baby you want to have, choose the menu (both food and drink), don’t forget the favors and prizes, and last but not least, remember to have fun while you plan it!

All parents start with an inextricable desire to raise a child who is more successful than the parent. Regardless of how much fun that parent had growing up, he or she wants the child to have an easier path than the one the parent walked. This aspiration is as eternal as time itself. It transcends religion, race, culture and nationality.

Parents all over the world love their children as much as parents anywhere. Just don’t say that to the children of African parents; We believe that our parents are the most loving parents in the world. That mentality is largely based on the fact that our parents overcame many difficulties to raise us. However, history teaches us that some (if not most) of the difficulties people experience in life are either self-inflicted or inflicted by society. The afflictions come in the form of corruption, civil war, having more mouths than one can feed, broken homes, bigotry, greed, poor health, and poor financial habits. There are things one can do to improve these problems and achieve successful individual results. One of the keys to a better result is to practice good financial habits. It is not just about knowing what to do, but also about putting what you know into practice.

Even in this Eden in which we reside with modern conveniences like 24-hour supermarkets and ATMs, internal refrigeration, a social safety net, reliable electricity, and affordable health care, many of us in the diaspora have become aware of the excitement inherent to be parents. We are waking up to the truth of Alayi’s adage that all paths to Arochukwu are full of challenges; that the Hot Chocolates didn’t mean it when they sang that “heaven is in the backseat of my Cadillac.” IMHO, people don’t begin to truly appreciate their parents until they become parents themselves, even under the best of circumstances. Any way you look at it, raising a family is a monumental financial endeavor, albeit a rewarding one.

Part of being better parents is teaching our children the skills they need to live successful lives. In this global village we now live in, learning and practicing sound financial life lessons is paramount. If a child wants to be financially endowed, she needs to learn the positive habits of the rich. Those who ignore these facts of life often pay a heavy price. However, studies show that parents would rather babble about the birds and bees than teach their children money lessons. It doesn’t help when some parents misunderstand the biblical quote that “the love of money is the root of all evil” to mean that money is the root of all evil. Some say that “lack” of money is the root of all evil. If a happy person has some reservations, he will be less inclined to do anything for money. On the other hand, a hungry and desperate saint would sin in no time for that steaming porridge.

A friend, Raymond Matthews, said it best when he said, “Often in life, what money can’t buy, the individual doesn’t need.” That may sound harsh or extreme, but if you think about it rationally, it makes sense. According to a YouTube anti-poverty video, “At the beginning of the 21st century, 1.2 billion people live in abject poverty. More than 800 million people go to bed hungry and 50,000 people die every day from poverty-related causes.” Na Shakara (lack of money) be dat o, paraphrasing the Great One Fela.

Every child should acquire basic financial skills before entering high school. In these times of unemployment, excessive student debt, and credit cards, your child is likely to come home and cause you a lot of trouble later if you don’t arm him with these lifelong skills. One of my biker friends once told me that the best thing any parent can do for a child is to help them become financially independent as soon as possible. Having a well-paid job is no longer enough; your child should know how to manage his resources. According to Jim Rohn, “If you work hard at your job, you can make a living [live paycheck to paycheck]. If you work hard on yourself [by acquiring prudent financial skills]you can make a fortune” and have true financial freedom. It’s not how much you earn, but how much you save that matters.

As parents, we must be careful not to send mixed financial messages to our children. Parents should not slander the importance of money. Desperate people do desperate things. Some pass up opportunities and in desperation encourage their children to rack up huge student loans or play dangerous sports to finance their college education. What seemed like a good way to “beat the system” today may haunt them and their children for years to come. Ask some retired athletes or former high earners. Google my article: “Should you as a parent encourage your child to play dangerous sports.” I put it all there.

Start early! “One important thing to remember about kids and financial education is that it’s more helpful to start teaching kids about money early on rather than wait until high school,” according to Sara Berthiaum. It is amazing what the human mind can absorb when it is as open and eager to learn as the minds of children. That’s why they learn languages ​​and new things faster than most adults.

I credit my parents, particularly my father Lawrence Okoronkwo Ukaoma, for teaching me from an early age the virtues of saving money. One teaching moment in particular is etched in my mind. He was around 8 years old and the brutal civil war between Nigeria and Biafra was in full swing. I had done housework for a neighbor and was paid in wrinkle-free Biafran notes. Thinking that he had made me rich, I went to my father and asked him to keep the money for me. He asked me why he couldn’t keep my money. I replied that I didn’t want to be tempted to spend it or lose it. He told me that “it was okay to be tempted, but I should learn to control my money because how I manage my resources will determine my height in life.”

My father also taught me about savings accounts, stocks (shares), and real estate investments. He made sure he learned that how much you save counts more than how much you earn. When he was a teenager, he had an account at the then Federal Savings Bank where one could “open an account with just ten kobo.” The reader of that time may remember that jingle. The bank was cleverly operated through post offices. During my teenage years, my father would send me to collect rent from his tenants and deposit the funds (and coupons/dividends) into his bank account as soon as possible to earn interest. He taught me to take off my “going out” clothes and put on my “stay at home” clothes as soon as I got home so my good clothes would last longer. He taught me how “a stitch in time saves nine” and how to defer gratification. If it could be done during and shortly after a civil war, it can be done today. Say what you can about Nigeria, I am very grateful for my Nigerian heritage. Most of what sustains me and others like me today we learned in Nigeria. I learned good work habits, independent thinking and content living from my upbringing in Nigeria.

Developing money-saving habits should not be misconstrued as depriving oneself. Rather, saving money is a way of building a nest egg for you (not someone else) to use when you really need it. It is something everyone should aspire to achieve. Money may not be everything; nothing is. No one should diminish its importance. Like good health, many people may not realize its essence until they don’t have it and need it.

Who says strong financial skills aren’t important in life? Studies show that financial problems are at the heart of most marital discord. These problems are exacerbated when warring parents use money as ammunition in battles for their children. Financial education is the initial and lasting casualty in this dead end war.

Some financial institutions now have a savings account with no minimum. Take your young child to a financial institution and open a savings account for him or her. Start by doing research online or over the phone to find out the incentive for new accounts. Some banks will give you $25 to $250 to open an account for your child. Several online financial institutions, as well as physical ones, want to have a lifelong financial relationship with young people. Let these banks pay to win your son’s business.

The decision of how much to give your child as an allowance, if any, is yours as the parent. Some give money to their children for household chores like cleaning their room, bathroom or washing dishes etc. Others give concessions for no reason. Personally, I give an allowance for chores beyond what my kids should be doing as family members. And I would make sure the money is deposited into the child’s account to “chill” and earn interest for a while before spending it. And if the boy needs to spend some money, she should research it before buying.

Lucky were the learners who had the opportunity to enjoy learning: with all the necessary support from stakeholders, a journey to learning was truly fun and meaningful.

With a healthy curriculum that addresses their needs for authentic learning, life skills were taught through lessons/activities in and out of the classroom provided by a conscientious and effective classroom teacher.

Parental support and maximum attention to their needs were provided, such as books, technology, among others: students had the opportunity to develop their expected skills, showing their passion; thus, making a huge impact on your learning.

I had always been concerned that each lesson, project or assignment was within the learning environment/experience of my students. The following learning activities tell us all about how I translated the K-12 curriculum into authentic, relevant, and impactful learning:

Mini City Tour

Familiarization with the community :with the help of parents agile the children were able to see different places in San José del Monte, from the welcome marker to SM town, Nolasco market, San Pedro church, Gumaok East, Central and West Barangay offices, the generic pharmacy, the Grotto Vista Resort and St Joseph the Worker. Church to the Old Town Hall to the Sanctuary of the Grotto of Lourdes.

sculpted dioramas

To show their knowledge about their neighborhood, students had the opportunity to create a diorama representation of their health center, basketball court, daycare center, sari-sari shop etc.

writing big books

Write stories about your experiences, showing your writing style, from reflecting on the mini tour to other learning activities. My students wrote over a hundred books. He asked them to share their written work with their classmates.

Tame Your Dragon Presentation Video

Giving them the opportunity to use technology to create ideas on how negative emotions can be managed, showing them the essence of social emotional intelligence in action. I think by doing this they would have empathy and be well-adjusted human beings later in life.

good deeds for the week

An activity sheet in which they wrote down the good deeds they had observed during the day. Not only did they have the opportunity to be aware of their behaviors when dealing with the people around them, but they were also able to develop their language skills, particularly in the use of grammar, let’s say the past tense of the verb: I listened carefully, spoke quietly, did not intimidate a seatmate, to mention just a few.

weekly celebration

The students were always ready to show off their dancing skills and singing prowess whenever we had a classroom program like Nutrition Month, Linggo ng Wikaetc.

parade

A regular culminating activity where parents join in the fun and excitement by preparing costumes or props to make the celebration meaningful and memorable for the children.

resource person

During the celebration of the Month of Nutrition we had invited a lactating mother to answer questions from the students about breastfeeding, proper care of the baby, among others.

game cards

Verb cards were part of the lesson where they had fun learning sight words in sentence, sentence… and paragraph. Few had difficulty building sentences, others with paragraphs.

Urban Gardening

Instill in their young minds the value of planting vegetables, caring for seeds or young plants, etc. we had gardening at home.

Bangkang Tsinelas

To instill the value of caring for our environment, in particular the importance of clean water flowing in watercourses, the students had bangkang tsinelas race in which they could see the state of their to know and do the necessary actions within their capacity as small defenders of the environment.

Exhibit

As a way to show their love for their culture and that of others, they held a great exhibition of different provinces in Region 3 where the people, their culture and their arts were highlighted.

Quarterly Classroom Based Awards/Recognitions

Recognizing exemplary works, performances and all…selected students received ribbons and certificates; his always supportive parents were also recognized.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my sincere thanks to all agile parents who, in one way or another, have supported their children’s learning journey, with me. Along with other great stakeholders, may you continue to be enthusiastically involved in your child’s education.

One of the most challenging aspects of parenting can be taking care of your child’s interests. As your child gets older, she will begin to exhibit traits that are an indicator of what her interests are. I believe that we are all created with a purpose and our job as parents is to guide our children in the direction that will best help them become who they should be, to find their destiny.

Each child has an interest and a different way of expressing it. In my house there is a budding music producer, a born journalist, an athlete and an artist. Talk to your child or children; ask them what kinds of things interest them. I’ve found that usually by the age of 10 or 11, most kids have a general idea of ​​what they’d like to do. The easiest way to find this out is to ask a question like this: “If you could do anything in the world that you wanted to do that wasn’t cruel or illegal, and you got paid to do it and it would be fun.” …what would you do?” By the middle school years, your child has an idea of ​​what he or she really likes. Find out what this activity or interest is and find activities in your area that you can use to develop this interest.

There are many things that can be bought at thrift stores or obtained for free. My 13-year-old son wants to be an animator. I was able to find an older version of Adobe Flash for him off of Craigslist, for free. There’s no need to spend $600 for the latest version of software when a little searching can yield cheaper results. I also found a weight bench at the thrift store for under $30.00 for my 18 year old son when he was weight training for football. For my budding music producer, I found an old keyboard that someone was about to throw away and ordered it. All it needed were batteries. Now children themselves have learned how to be resourceful and look for articles that can be easily downloaded or viewed on the Internet at no cost.

I know it can be quite hectic going from dance classes to art, to minor league and football practices, music lessons, etc., so some strategic planning is necessary if you have multiple children, especially if you are single. relative. Find other parents in the area whose children are attending the same activities and share the load.

Most importantly, you have to be interested and supportive. You can’t decide for your child what his gift or talent is. You can’t push them into what you want their gift to be, or minimize what they want to do. There is nothing more frustrating than throwing your frustrated desires and achievements at your child. I know there are a lot of men (and women too) who really like sports, but just because you have a son or daughter who may have a great athletic build, you can’t force athleticism on your child. He or she may not want to do that. Don’t put your frustration at not achieving what you would have wanted on the sports field on your child. You may have the next business tycoon or president of the United States. It’s not about what you want them to do so you can look good and show off; it’s about what they want to do…what they were created to do. Actually, you should brag because they are your children. If your son wants to be a dancer and you play for the NFL… so what? Let me do it. he is not you. He is a product OF you but he is NOT you.

I have talked to many parents who struggle with this. Just because you have an Olympic gold medal or a Super Bowl ring doesn’t mean your child should do the same. For example, President George Bush’s daughter, Laura, loved reading books and wanted to be a school teacher. She had no desire to be a lawyer. Her parents supported her.

Our children are not necessarily going to do what we do, because they are not us. But we can influence them in a positive way, and with our support, they will be successful in everything they do. You should do this because you never want your children to feel like they are letting you down with their career choices.

A child who grows into an adult feeling dissatisfied because he pursued his dreams instead of his own will be very frustrated as an adult. A child whose dreams are crushed and discouraged will find adult life more challenging than it should be. He wanted to be a fashion designer. I was invited and visited by the representatives of a prestigious design school, but they laughed at me and put me off. They told me “Those kinds of things are for sissies.”

Let your child show you and teach you what his interest is, support him 100%. Communicate with your children and come up with a game plan early on to ensure your children’s success.

Quick tips for garage organization and storage.

1. Move

Thoroughly clean out the garage and move it to the driveway or patio. Review each item and decide when was the last time you used it. It’s a good idea to organize your items into 3 groups at this point. Frequently used items should be quickly accessible in the garage in low storage, items you use occasionally should be stored higher and out of the way, and items you haven’t used in over a year get rid of.

2. MAKE A PLAN

Your garage is an expensive room, but most people don’t treat it that way. If you treat it like any other room in the house, it’s worth making a plan. Just like you would with your kitchen or bonus room, take measurements and write your plan down on paper.

3. CATEGORIZE

Decide what items you store in the garage but use around the house. Keep those items near the front door of the house. Large items like a lawn mower, pressure washer, or snow blower should be stored under a shelf so they don’t take up as much space. Storing them in the corner is a waste of space and also makes keeping the floor clean much more difficult. Remove string trimmers, brushcutter, shovels, and rakes from the ground and place them in a storage system. There are many systems available to help store these items.

4. GARAGE CABINETS, SHELVES AND CONTAINERS

Ideally, everything should be stored off the ground. Keeping things in a cabinet, on a garage shelf, or in a bin not only allows you to get them off the floor, but also keeps them clean. Not only does it keep your items clean, but it also makes keeping your floor clean a breeze. Shelving is ideal for items you need to grab quickly or when your hands are full.

5. SAFETY TEST

Chances are your garage contains hazardous materials such as fertilizers, pesticides, and paint. Keep them up high and out of reach or lock them in a garage cabinet. It’s also a good idea to store your sharp gardening tools and chainsaw in a locked cabinet or high on a garage shelf. The one item that should never be missing is a fire extinguisher. Chances are your garage has a lot of flammable items, so make sure you’re covered if a fire starts.

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Christmas traditions are something we all cherish and remember throughout our lives. Take some time this year and make new Christmas traditions with your family. I’ve put together a list of twelve easy Christmas tradition ideas for moms.

1.) Use the 12 Days of Christmas theme and give your children inexpensive gifts for each of the 12 days of Christmas.

2.) Put together a family Christmas photo book for each Christmas.

3.) Have a special Christmas movie night with Christmas food.

4.) Pack holiday gift bags for your family and friends. Include candy, stickers, and a little craft for each child in the family.

5.) Make a gingerbread house together. Let each person choose a package of her favorite candy to decorate the gingerbread house.

6.) Make your own Christmas greeting cards.

7.) Go caroling in your neighborhood at a family member’s house.

8.) Volunteer, sponsor a soldier overseas, or donate gently used clothing and toys to less fortunate families.

9.) Make at least one new ornament per person in the family each year to put on the Christmas tree.

10.) Let your child choose and buy an inexpensive gift for a child in need.

11.) Make your own garland out of nuts, fruit, greeting cards, popcorn, or candy and hang it on your tree.

12.) Make a favorite holiday recipe together. Splurge on ingredients for the recipe. Go for something extra tasty even if it’s expensive or full of fat.

I hope these twelve easy Christmas tradition ideas bring joy to your family for years to come.

Problems in marriage can arise from a lot of different things.

A good friend of mine the other day was venting on the phone and saying “my wife blames me for everything”. Thinking he was just being sarcastic and joking, I replied “of course that’s what wives do, that’s their job”…

But he was serious. She said no Jay, my wife really blames me for every little thing. Problems that I don’t even have anything to do with. Everything bad that happens is my fault and she never takes any responsibility or blame for her own problems.

What Nope What to do if your wife blames you for everything…

Usually when a wife blames her husband for everything, it becomes part of a cycle of criticism in the marriage. Criticism is one of the leading causes of death in marriage, and it often goes hand in hand with complaining.

Now, of course, you must be aware that there may be some truth in some Of the things he blames you for. A marriage is usually 50-50 and therefore some of the issues may be legitimate.

But a) if she doesn’t take responsibility for her own problems, then he’s using her as a scapegoat and b) there are better ways to express your criticism that don’t cause problems in the marriage.

What you should not do is close. Many times when a wife constantly complains and bombards you with criticism, she makes the man shut down. He may feel like running away by refusing to talk about the problem. This will deepen his marital problems, so it’s important that he resist doing it.

What you SHOULD do if your wife blames you for everything and causes problems in the marriage…

First of all, you should try to explain to her that it bothers you that she is doing this, but in a way that doesn’t cause an explosion on her part. In other words, if she gets defensive and starts snapping at you, don’t let that get you to the point where you’re arguing with her to see things your way.

No matter what you say, especially in that environment it won’t let you see things that way.

Another thing you can do so that there is no possibility of interruption is to write him a letter, expressing the situation and really letting him know that you do not want him to cause any more problems in the marriage.

Then stop arguing about it. Like I said, you’re not going to get anywhere trying to make her see things your way. Nobody can change the opinion of another person, it has to be done internally by the person himself.

The solution you may not want to hear but can make a 50% positive change in your marriage…

Remember I said that some of what she blames on you may be legitimate. Of course, she probably shouldn’t phrase it the way she does, but that’s not the point here.

Breakups are hard, especially if you’ve been dumped. But one thing you may not realize is that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is experiencing almost exactly the same kinds of feelings that you are currently experiencing. Emotional ties do not dissolve overnight and feelings take time to fade. By using this to your advantage, you can make your ex want you back even when the circumstances seem almost hopeless.

There are four main phases a person goes through when ending a relationship. You already know how your feel, so it’s time to examine how does your ex feel in order to determine your best approach to recover them.

Stage 1 – Detachment

Remember when your ex sat you down to break up with you? Although this may have come as a shock to you, your ex spent a lot of time making this decision days or even weeks in advance. He or she knew what was coming and, unlike you, they were already prepared for it. In short, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend started breaking up with you long before you had a chance to do the same.

This gave your ex an emotional advantage in dealing with you during the breakup. Your ex knew what you would say, how you would react, and what kind of protest you could offer to keep him close. Your boyfriend or girlfriend was prepared to counter your every move or plea, and they had an escape route planned. They had parted ways long before you, and this immediately put you in a position of weakness.

So what can you do during the detachment stage that will help you get your ex back? Essentially, you also need to distance yourself emotionally. The quicker you can accept the breakup instead of fighting it, the quicker you can agree with your ex’s decision to end things, the easier it will be to move on to the next stage of reconciliation. Many people get stuck here because they refuse to break up and think that by holding on to the relationship as tightly as possible they can prevent their boyfriend or girlfriend from breaking up with them. not so

Stage 2 – Avoidance

Does your ex boyfriend or girlfriend ignore you? Don’t take it as a sign of disinterest. It’s very common for an ex to go out of their way to avoid seeing or hearing you, especially if they were the one who initiated the breakup. Your ex is probably feeling awkward or uncomfortable with you right now and he doesn’t know how to handle contact of any kind.

The avoidance stage is definitely not the time to move on. You can’t force your ex to see you and you can’t blame him so that he wants to talk to you again. No matter how much you want to see his ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend right now, you need to make that reunion happen. on your own terms. Setting up such a meeting before your ex is ready to see you will only lead to further avoidance and resentment.

Stage 3 – Longing

After being apart for a while, your ex will start thinking about you again. This is a natural reaction to being away from someone you shared such an intimate connection with, and both you and your ex will feel some desire to be together again, even temporarily.

Getting your ex to want you back is all about making them miss you. You need your ex to think about your past relationship, and ideally this should happen on her own. As time passes, your ex will tend to remember the good times you shared together and the great things you did as a couple. These are the memories that will rebuild your relationship and ultimately make your ex see a future with you again.

The worst thing you can do during this stage of the breakup is try to “be there” for your ex. Staying and being friendly with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend will only reduce their desire to see you. It’s always best to stay away from your ex’s current situation, as this will create a void in their life where you used to be. If you are always in sight, your ex will never have a chance to miss you.

Stage 4 – Repentance

If left unchecked, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will eventually reach a point where they will regret being without you. These can be temporary feelings, triggered on a lonely night or in a moment of weakness… or they can be much more substantial. There are certain signs and signals issued when your ex is reconsidering a relationship with you again, and to give yourself the best chance of reconciliation, you need to know what they are.

Regret may be fleeting, but it is something you can help build upon. By giving your ex a reason to want to get back together with you, you can increase their need and desire to see you. There are certain adjustments you can make that will get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend interested in you again, even if it seems like they’ve already moved on. Learning these adjustments can mean the difference between getting your ex back or losing him forever.

Well, the day of your dig is here and you’ve been assured that everything is in place and the ceremony will go off without a hitch. While you trust the venue staff, wedding planner, caterer, florist, and photographer, you’re unsure about some of your wedding guests. It can be stressful to think that the unpredictable or unpredictable behavior of your guests can leave a black eye on your wedding day memories. Even though your family and friends lists are full of interesting characters, let’s hope you don’t have too many of the following worst wedding guests:

crazy mother in law Yes, the one who sobbs uncontrollably and is quick to point out flaws in everything from the bride’s dress, to other guests and in-laws, from the ceremony to the newly established marriage.

inappropriate father-in-law In-laws don’t tend to be as emotional, but they can still show their discontent. They may prematurely take advantage of the elder’s leniency exception when they blurt out inappropriate comments, comments, and jokes. After their tirade, they can spend the rest of the ceremony in peaceful sleep, letting the special occasion pass.

Emotionless dad and girlfriend. It is forbidden for your dad and his girlfriend (if your parents are separated or divorced) to show any emotion or any indication that they are having fun.

emotional mom. Some moms can’t hide their excitement and will cry every moment of the wedding. To better deal with their emotions, most will either resort to exerting control over their wedding or turn to the bottle to drain their emotions.

Bridesmaids-Zillas. You really love and respect your bridesmaids. However, the emotions and responsibility of the day and their coveted positions can cause them to act strangely out of character. Some can become demanding and entitled monsters, while others accept your request to be their maid of honor, either out of obligation or some other ulterior motive.

Maid of Honor (Privilege). You have chosen your best friend, whom you have known almost since she was born, as your maid of honor. You have put trust and security in her. However, she is not bridesmaid material. The pressure can cause her to go on a power trip where she will manipulate, constantly complain about everything, make excuses for things, make unsolicited comments, crave the spotlight, and put her wants and needs before the girlfriend’s. .

Fraternity of groomsmen. You have a unique bond with the men at your wedding; So much so that you are like brothers. As close as you are, you know they love alcohol almost as much as your friendship. This means that they will probably have had their fill when their speeches come. You just hope they don’t share X-rated blackmail speeches.

He’s not your brother’s best man. Your sponsor has always had your back and he won’t let you down this time by telling everyone in attendance some of your deepest, darkest secrets and mistakes that shouldn’t be repeated in front of children.

Hateful and obscene brothers. Oh yeah, you can’t forget your brothers and sisters. Although they are adults, technically speaking, they still think and act like irresponsible, sex-starved teenagers with their “important people.” You just hope no one catches them kissing, getting drunk, or getting stoned in the parking lot.

Unpredictable and rebellious extended family. You have a large extended family, which means you don’t know everyone very well. However, he is concerned about some unpredictable and rebellious behavior. After all, you don’t want desperate cousins ​​flirting and making out with your groomsmen, gossipy aunts pressuring you to call off the wedding because they’ll be a better wife, screaming rebellious kids, and drunk uncles. In a way, you think that if things get really bad, your wedding could become a book or a movie.

Who is that and other “random” guests. Are these guests your great-grandmother’s second cousin that you “had to” invite twice, a “date” from one of the guests, or a random guy who just crashed your wedding for some free drink and cake and chances? to flirt?

While it’s impossible to completely predict and control guest behavior, it’s still important to enjoy your special day. There may be embarrassing and awkward moments, but why should they bring back a tarnished memory of their wedding?

Even if your wedding unexpectedly turns into one drama after another, having a professional and reliable wedding photographer to capture the moments that really matter and exclude those bad memories can give you peace of mind and help you better enjoy your wedding day. An experienced wedding photographer will know that these embarrassing guest behaviors are best remembered in the mind and not in the photo album.

My sister has been self-absorbed all her life. She takes no responsibility for her hateful actions and constantly blames others for her actions. Our mother had a stroke in 2006. She refused to take care of our mother until now. My uncles take care of our mother because I am also working. I can’t help but resent her for her lack of caring and caring personality. She even abandons her own children for her selfish satisfaction.

Since there are only two of us, basically, it is always me who takes care of our family despite having a family of my own. I can’t seem to understand my sister’s hatred towards me and the lies she has told to scam other people. She wants to gain sympathy from other people by blaming me. Last year she almost died of suffocation because the child in her womb died three days ago and she did nothing to solve the problem. My family called me and asked what I could do to help with her seemingly unstoppable bleeding. The first reaction was anger because she didn’t take care of her even though she was pregnant. Then I gave her money for her checkup. The result of her ultrasound examination showed that her bleeding was caused by a failed miscarriage. She needed to undergo an operation to have the dead fetus in her womb or else she might die due to hemorrhage.

Fortunately, he survived without undergoing an operation. The baby was removed from her uterus through an induction procedure. When she left the hospital, I advised her to be careful and consider the consequences of his actions. Since she and her husband did not get along, she left her children in the care of her husband and found work as a waitress at a barbecue. Just a month later, she became pregnant by her co-worker, a very young 23-year-old man when she was already 37 years old. I swore I wouldn’t help her anymore because I can’t tolerate such irresponsible behavior.

I really don’t know what’s wrong with her. Now her tummy is already 8 months old. She asks me for money for her ultrasound and medical care. Her so-called boyfriend left her a month ago. She is now left alone with the burden of raising the baby and the possibility of facing adultery charges from her legal husband.

Am I to blame for your circumstance?

When she needs me, I am always there for her. But she won’t listen to her family. She thinks her family is bad and an obstacle to her happiness. Now, I am faced with a bigger problem: where to get money for the delivery of it next month. She doesn’t have a single penny ready. Her co-workers thought I’m a bad sister when in fact she’s the one. She never appreciates the nice things you do to her. She doesn’t even know how to say thank you for your efforts.

He doesn’t do anything productive in his life. She doesn’t care about her children. She already has 3 children. Now that she is pregnant, she would be 4. She makes excuses and blames others for her situation. She blames me for not having a tubal ligation so she won’t be pregnant anymore. She acts like a victim and takes no responsibility for causing her situation. She sees me as a manipulative and abusive sister even though she is the other way around. She even threatens me to end everything because there is nothing left to live for.

I let him make his own decisions. I never told him what to do. But many times, I explained to her what her choices could lead to. But now I realized that she needs a slap in the face for acting like a fool and doing something completely stupid that will hurt others, especially her children and herself. She needs to shake herself up a bit to come back to reality.

I can’t always be there for her because I also have children of my own. But one thing is for sure, she can count on me in times of need.