Are you currently involved in a “friends with benefits” relationship? Was it fun at first, but now you find it increasingly difficult to keep sex separate from your feelings of love? Are you freaking out because you’re falling more and more in love but he doesn’t feel the same way? It can be very difficult for a woman to stay involved in a friends with benefits situation. But getting out can be even more difficult.

The problem with one night stands

It all seemed like a great idea at first. You were already friends with him and this was a way to have a casual relationship without needing to go out looking for someone. One night stands can be fun from time to time, but it can be a lot of work having to always be on the lookout for a new guy. At least with this friends with benefits deal, you knew what you were getting.

In fact, it’s pretty much perfect until you start to realize that you’re starting to feel an emotional bond with your friend. This is the oh-oh moment because once that feeling kicks in, there’s no going back to just being friends.

Truth be told, it is not uncommon for a woman to experience these feelings with a man with whom she has regular physical contact. Because usually having sex regularly with the same man means that you are involved in some kind of relationship with him. And that is precisely why the problem occurs. Now a guy can have sex with a woman without becoming emotionally attached. For him it is even better if he is friends with this woman. He doesn’t have to work at building a relationship because that’s not what it’s about.

So what should you do when you find yourself in love with your friend? Well, there are a couple of options, but the result will most likely be the same in either case.

Option #1 – Come Clean

You could and probably should tell him that things have changed for you. If you think he may be sharing some of the same feelings as you, you can talk to him about it and see if he would like to try to develop a real relationship together. The chances of this happening may be slim, and if he rejects you, your friendship along with the benefits will come to an end. Anyway, it would not work anymore because if you have fallen in love with him, your friendship will not be the same as before.

Option #2 – Break free

Your other option, and one that can help you deal with your feelings more easily, is to simply break up with him. You could even lie and tell him that you’ve met someone else, so you won’t see him again. If you do this, continue letting calls from him go to voicemail, not responding to texts, and being distant if you run into him.

There is no point in tormenting yourself by keeping contact with him. Not only are friends with benefits a part of friendship, but being friends with him would probably be too painful.

Want to know how to avoid getting into a friends with benefits situation and instead open your life to better, stronger, longer-term relationships? Then I would love to help you!