Are you in a marriage where your wife doesn’t initiate sex, but you really wish she did?

Well, you are not alone in this at all … it happened in my marriage, and in many (if not most) of other men’s marriages as well.

But it doesn’t have to mean conflict in marriage, end of marriage, or even end of good sex in marriage if you do things right …

Why a wife does not initiate sex …

Before solving a problem, we must first understand it. When it comes to the problem of a wife not initiating sex, there are many things you need to know to realize that your marriage is not necessarily in trouble. But it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not in trouble either. I’ll explain more about that in a minute.

But first let’s clarify a few things. Your wife isn’t initiating sex because … well … she’s not like you. She is connected in a different way than yours. Just because you’re RTG (ready to go) as soon as you wake up until you go to bed doesn’t mean your wife will be. Guys get horny for every little thing every few seconds. It is the way we are connected. We are externally motivated for sex, which is why our brain drives our sex drive from many image situations … and images are in all the damn places.

However, your wife is not like that. She doesn’t look at a banana and she gets horny the way we could look at erect nipples on a mannequin and be RTG, or other simple things that make us almost Neanderthal. His wife is turned on by emotional circumstances. Intimacy, erotic stories, happiness, security … these are all the things that turn your wife on … and ironically they are the things that bore us to death.

So unfortunately for all the men in the world who get upset that our wives don’t act like the women in porn and are RTGs in the blink of an eye, or when a penis is discovered … we have to get over it. and learn to play the game.

We have to realize that if our wives feel things emotionally, then they are not going to initiate sex with you because, frankly, they will not be in the mood for it. In fact, the most we can hope for as husbands is that our wives are willing when we start, and they will take those single-digit times when they start as a bonus.

You will see that many men will get mad at their wives, take it personally and constantly annoy their wives because they do not initiate sex, but they will do nothing to make the woman want more sex, let alone initiate it.

So this is where the problem lies. If your wife does not initiate sex … or more, does not want sex when you initiate it, this might It means that he has some hidden negative thoughts (to you) about you and your marriage. Which means that your lack of sex and your wife’s lack of interest in sex could be indications that your marriage is more troubled than you think. It could also mean that she would be much more willing and open to having an affair with someone who actually made her feel more positive thoughts.

So if your wife does not initiate sex, it could mean that you are doing the wrong thing. It could also mean that this is becoming a deeply ingrained problem in your marriage.