When the going gets tough in a relationship, it’s always easier to give up and move in separate directions. But if the thought of a permanent separation gives you the creeps, then clearly you love your wife too much to let her go. Here’s what you need to do to get your wife back from a breakup.

show him the effort

If your wife has decided to separate, you need to act fast to change her mind. Now talking to her is not going to help you here. Instead, show him that you’re working hard to understand the things he doesn’t like about you. Sometimes even taking the initiative and seeing a counselor will help your wife see your effort.

bring the change

Once you have understood what is really bothering your wife, you need to make a plan and change those things. Be reasonable and keep in mind that you have your limitations as an individual. It takes a while for things to change, but as long as you make an honest effort, your effort will be recognized.

do something special

Sometimes just taking some time and venturing outside of your family territory helps win your wife back. Do something special for her, like plan a little getaway just for the two of you, or do things with her that she appreciates. This will help bring you closer together and bridge the gap created between the two of you.

take things slow

Don’t pressure her to change her mind at any point. She is not in the mood to listen to you from all people. Be patient with her as long as you can and little by little she will recover, you will have to be patient with her.

listen to her

Men complain that women don’t listen. Men are no different. Make your wife feel that you are interested in her and listen to what she has to say.

understand their point of view

Once you start listening to it you will see that you understand where it comes from. Gradually, the demands of him that seemed unreasonable no longer seem so.

be the romantic you were

Slowly begin to rekindle the romance in the relationship. Buy her flowers or bring a gift to her office for no reason. Take her to a romantic candlelight dinner not because it’s your anniversary, but because she felt like it. She brings back the romance and she will go back where she belongs: with you.