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Double standards of being a stepfather

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Good Morning America showed an interesting segment on “Mom vs Stepmom” on Friday, April 3. The idea came about after a well-known model, Gisele Bundchen, made an innocent comment about her feelings towards her stepchildren. She simply said that she considers them 100% hers. Why wouldn’t she feel this way? More specifically, why shouldn’t she feel this way? after all she it is married to her biological father. Haven’t we all learned that we should love not only the person we are married to, but also their entire family? That includes children, obviously. In-laws, however, are an exception, particularly the mother-in-law. It seems okay that you don’t like them, or at least not get along with them.

Divorce also seems fine. Oh right, we’re told to only marry once, only marry the person we’re in love with, never cheat on that person, and never get divorced. However, the divorce rate for first-time marriages is 50%. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is 66%, and even higher for marriages with children (families). That is, if the couple even wants to remarry. Many couples are choosing cohabitation (living together/living together) because they don’t *want* to get divorced again. It was so painful the first time that they realized why do it a second time.

These rates themselves reflect a contradiction in the so-called family values ​​of our society. On the one hand, we accept the importance of family values, sticking together, loving everyone, treating everyone the same, and so on. However, on the other hand, we have accepted these divorce/separation rates as fact and they are not likely to change. In fact, someone told me THAT last week: Don’t expect the divorce rate to go down. EVER!! So we have accepted the fact that separation/divorce occurs, as well as the reasons for it, including infidelity.

The stepfamily dynamic, then, is the epitome of conflicting family values, with the stepfather being the biggest victim of double standards. We’re all led to believe that we *can* love whoever we want, and that love *can* last forever if we try hard enough. We’re all led to believe, thanks to movies like Yours Mine and Ours, that we too can have a blended family and everyone will live happily ever after. However, anyone who has been in a stepfamily knows that this is not the case. The reality is that stepparents and stepchildren don’t automatically or instantly love each other just because the adults in the family remarry. In fact, in many stepfamilies (blended families) love doesn’t come until several years later. In other stepfamilies, love NEVER comes. That’s one of the reasons why the divorce rate for stepfamilies is so much higher than the rate for birth/traditional families.

We do not choose who we love. Also, we cannot make another person love us. We choose how we treat people. We should ALWAYS choose to treat people fairly, courteously, and respectfully, which is especially important in stepfamilies. Not instantly loving stepparents or stepchildren is okay as long as you treat them the right way.

Stepfamilies are an example of this. We expect the stepfather to automatically love the biological children by marrying her biological father; however, we do not hold children to the same standard because they are “children.” So if the children try to break up the marriage because they are not happy with having another parent, the stepparent is expected to be the more important person and not be frustrated or upset. Many parents revolve around children hoping to make them happy without understanding that all children want is for their biological parents to get back together, which is not a possibility in 99% of cases. That’s why it’s important for stepfamilies to figure out how to make the new union function like a stepfamily unit.

Then there is the flip side of double standards, as in the case of Gisele Bundchen. She internalized these family values ​​that the Great Society has upheld over the years. She internalized the message and had taken it to heart. She fully intends and hopes to be as good as the biological mother of her stepchildren. In every bone of her body, she believes that she will love her husband’s children as her own and treat them as she would her own children. In that sense, she considers them 100% hers. However, the other side of the same coin is the simple fact that they are not her children. No matter what she does between now and the day she dies… even if she bonds deeply with them, she will never have a biological bond with them. She can never replace her mother. She knows she can’t either and she didn’t expect to try to replace her mother; however, she believes that she can be everything to them that her mother can be. In fact, she can, everything except the level and quality of love (bond) that only exists between a mother and her biological child.

The other factor that was not considered, and is often not known or understood, is how the stepchildren really feel about their new stepmother, the new family, the new environment (neighborhood, house, friends, etc.). The biological mother’s feelings are also not known or understood. Many, many women have a hard time seeing their ex-spouse with a new woman. This is particularly harsh if the new woman is perceived (by her ex-wife) as prettier, younger, better known, or more glamorous. This can be even harder if, God forbid, she was the “other woman” while her biological father was still married. Women more than men can feel very insecure about these qualities in themselves. When they see their ex with a new woman who has these qualities, their insecurities come to the fore. In the minds of many of these ex-wives is that he broke up with her because she wasn’t pretty enough, she was too fat, too thin, too frumpy, not glamorous enough… you get the picture. In reality, those reasons usually have nothing to do with the reasons for the initial breakup. Suddenly, things that didn’t seem like a problem before are now a problem for the ex-wife. This puts the stepmother in a precarious position from the start. It’s a long uphill hike that frequently takes her by surprise, to say the least.

Technology

Three Ways to Revive Old Ceramic Bathroom Tiles

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Old ceramic bathroom tiles may be scratched, outdated, or have simply lost their shine. It may also have become boring to look at after years of seeing the same old stuff. There are some things you can do to improve this position. The first thing is simply to give it a good cleaning. The second is to restore it if your budget does not allow replacement, and the third is replacement.

Bathroom tiles can simply become dull due to a buildup of environmental debris, smoke, or even mold. Simple wall cleaning from time to time can remove water stains or obvious grime, but it’s not enough to remove the oils that smoke from bathroom tile dissolves in. Tiles may be clean, but grout discolors easily. By giving your bathroom walls a spring cleaning, you can bring them back to the shine they once had.

If you’ve been using household cleaning products, that may be the reason why your bathroom ceramic tiles are dull. Ceramic tile cleaners are available on the market and have been specifically formulated to clean tile. Some are formulated to also remove grout that has embedded itself in the tile. You can also make your own tile cleaner, using one part water, one half vinegar, and one half baking soda. Use a bucket or spray bottle. A sponge is all you need. Thoroughly wash, rinse and dry polish. If the grout is still dark in places, scrub with a brush, rinse, then dry. If discoloration still persists, rub with bleach and wipe clean. Do not expose yourself to bleach fumes.

If cleaning hasn’t brought your ceramic bathroom tile back to life and money is tight, you might consider refinishing your bathroom and painting over the tile. Tiles do not adhere well to paint. First you need to prepare the tile surface. This means turning the smooth surface into a rough one. You can do it with sandpaper, but once you start, there’s no going back. You’ll need to clean the tile with a cleaner that won’t leave chemicals on the tile, such as one with trisodium phosphate. Use a large pore sponge for better scrubbing. Then, using 180-grit sandpaper, roughen up the ceramic well. It will feel gritty to the touch when you’re done. Then paint over an acrylic latex primer, preferably with a roller. Smooth with a latex brush, then let the primer dry. Once dry, apply the paint. A semi-gloss latex paint is probably best. After a couple of hours, add a second coat if it looks like it requires it.

Your third option for correcting old or unattractive ceramic bathroom tiles is to remove the tiles and replace them with new ones. The big job is removing the ceramic from the wall. A grout saw, with a thick handle blade, is used to cut through the grout. Then, using a hammer and chisel, gently pry the tiles away from the wall. Be sure to wear eye protection. You can also remove old mortar using the hammer and chisel method. If the old adhesive was chemical, you will have to use an adhesive remover, which you can buy at any hardware store. Once this is done, sand the wall until smooth.

Placing ceramic bathroom walls requires cleaning the wall with mortar or chemical adhesive and laying the tiles. It is finished by grout. You can find more detailed instructions on the Internet.

When you’re tired of the same old bathroom walls, try a good cleaning and if that’s not satisfactory, repaint or replace. You are not trapped with those walls. With a little work and a little money, your ceramic bathroom walls can once again be a treat for the eyes.

Business

4 questions to ask before hiring a probate attorney

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For any executive, going through the succession process is time-consuming and complicated. If you are in charge of fulfilling the last wish of the deceased, you may be looking for ways to ensure that assets are calculated, liabilities are settled, and the rest of the property is distributed to the beneficiaries. The whole process can take a few months or a few years. Therefore, it is best that you retain the services of a probate attorney. Below are some of the questions you can ask before hiring one.

1. What is the size of the estate?

In each state, the definition of estate size is different. For example, if the value of the real estate does not exceed $150,000, a simple estate is needed. The good thing about simple sequence is that it can save a lot of time and money.

2. Does the estate have enough money to cover the decedent’s debts?

In an ideal situation, the will has abundant patrimonial resources to compensate the debts of the inheritance. However, this is not the case with all farms. After taking inventory of assets and other property, there may not be enough money left over to cover the descendant’s taxes and debts. Therefore, you may wish to seek expert advice before making payments to other creditors.

Under state law, creditors are paid on a priority basis, so you may want to get help from a probate attorney. They know much better how to distribute money efficiently.

3. Is it possible to transfer the deceased’s assets out of the estate?

Based on the descendant’s planning, it may be possible to distribute the assets without taking the matter to probate court. Therefore, you may want to find out if the assets are held in joint ownership or in trust. Sometimes the assets are held in a property payable on death.

Also, probate is not required when assets left by the descendant are to be distributed based on the terms of a contract, such as a life insurance policy or retirement account. In the case of an insurance policy, the assets are transferred to the aforementioned beneficiary in the event of the death of the policyholder.

If the descendant’s assets fall into this category, it is not necessary to retain the services of a probate attorney.

4. What are Family Dynamics?

The succession process can involve stress and uncertainty due to the family dynamics of the descendant. In some cases, a family member may file legal objections that complicate the probate process. For example, if a family member comes forward and questions the will, she will have to take the matter to court to resolve the issue. In this case, she will need to retain the services of a professional probate attorney.

To summarize, you may want to ask yourself these 4 questions if you are trying to figure out if you should retain the services of a probate attorney. The answers to these questions will help you make this decision with confidence.

Home Kitchen

Things You Should Know About Kitchen Cabinet Design

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Kitchen cabinet doors can add beauty to your kitchen. The appearance of your kitchen cabinets is based on the quality of your cabinets. So, you can completely change the look of your kitchen just by changing your kitchen cabinet doors. Good kitchen cabinet design is also important if you want to make the most of available storage space, and this should also be the goal in any kitchen design.

Types of wood for kitchen cabinets

Kitchen cabinets can be made from dozens of woods, including oak, maple, pine, cherry, hickory, poplar, alder, and birch. Hickory and Oak are the hardest and heaviest. Cherry, birch and maple are considered to be well suited to cabinets. Less expensive and more abundant woods, such as alder and poplar, work best with glazed finishes that are used to create an “antique” look. Pine is a softwood that can be more prone to dents and scratches.

There are three types of cabinet door shapes, slab, recessed panel, and raised panel.

There are many cabinet design styles to choose from. Four of the most common cabinet design styles are: traditional, country, shaker, and contemporary.

Kitchen cabinet construction

Kitchen cabinets are usually built with a combination of these types of woods, as well as particle board or plywood.

Some cabinet doors are made of solid wood, which is usually more expensive. Although solid wood and plywood kitchen cabinet doors are considered stronger and thicker, particle board is considered less likely to expand.

When selecting kitchen cabinets, it’s a good idea to start by defining your style. Will your kitchen design be more like a traditional look with raised panel doors and lots of ornate trim? Or will it be more of a rustic look with knotty pine and simpler details?

There are three main types of kitchen cabinets. These include stock kitchen cabinets, semi-stock kitchen cabinets, and custom kitchen cabinets.

While custom cabinet doors are more expensive than do-it-yourself cabinet doors, the upside is that you can get exactly what you want with a very high level of craftsmanship. You can tailor the cabinets to the exact specifications and needs of your kitchen.

There are also several styles of cabinet doors that can be related to one or two of the general design styles. Doors for a custom kitchen cabinet can be flat or frameless, raised, curved, plain, or carved.

Auto

Understanding and maintaining your Volkswagen TDI engine

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Volkswagen’s turbocharged direct injection (TDI) clean diesel engine offers high mileage between fill-ups and more than 50% better fuel economy than similarly sized petrol engines. With a potential 43 highway miles per gallon, you can get up to 795 miles per tank, in a car that emits lower CO2 commissions than 93% of other vehicles. TDI is available in newer Volkswagen cars such as the Passat, Golf, Jetta sedan and Sport Wagon, Beetle and Beetle Convertible, and Toureg.

To keep your TDI running at peak performance, it’s important to understand how it works and how to maintain it.

What makes a TDI engine different

The secret to TDI’s success lies in the engineering. Replacing the indirect injection of older diesel models, the new models use a fuel injection system that sprays atomized fuel directly into the main combustion chambers and not the pre-combustion chambers. This process is combined with forced induction with the turbocharger which increases the amount of air passed into the engine’s cylinders and an intercooler to reduce the temperature and density of the turbo charge air.

The result for you, the buyer? More fuel is injected and burned, so you’ll notice increased engine efficiency and increased power, along with more torque and lower emissions.

Fuel Requirements for TDI

The Volkswagen TDI engine runs on diesel fuel (petro diesel) or certain types of biodiesel fuels. The downside of the engine’s technical prowess is that it’s picky about the kind of fuel it needs. In the US, VW recommends No. 2 diesel fuel, which has a higher cetane number than No. 1 fuel and a lower viscosity. Proper fuel straight from the pump is common in Europe, but some American drivers must use additives or premium diesel to ensure correct cetane levels.

“Misfeeding” your TDI engine with regular gasoline instead of diesel can be a costly mistake. Some older VW models were more forgiving, but putting the wrong fuel in a modern TDI engine will damage the fuel pump and ruin the engine when the fuel goes through the fuel system. That system on 2013 vehicles has been redesigned with a fuel tank flap to prevent you from inserting a gas nozzle instead of a diesel nozzle into the tank.

The cost of an accidental incorrect refueling can range from $100 or so to pump the wrong fuel and replace the filters to over $8,000 to replace the entire fuel system. Most of these repairs are not covered under warranty.

What can you diagnose yourself?

Your local VW dealer has a great service department that can keep your TDI engine running strong. Regular maintenance costs are similar to professional service for a gas-powered VW. However, if you’re a competent backyard mechanic who enjoys doing your own car repairs, there are a few situations unique to a TDI that you can diagnose yourself:

  • If you hear noises, are they “normal” for your TDI engine? Most drivers notice a clicking noise from the steering column, a clicking noise from the EGR and pressure control valves, and a clicking noise from the shoulder valve when shutting off the engine. These noises indicate proper performance, not a problem, but as a new TDI owner, you need to learn what to ignore and what to pay attention to.
  • Engine won’t start or won’t start? While the car is in neutral, turn the ignition to the run position to see if you get a check engine warning or glow plug lights. If not, you may need a new battery as the motor is not receiving power.
  • Does the engine start? If you see check engine or glow plug lights on the dash, but the car makes noise when you try to start, it may be low on fuel, corroded cables leading to the battery, or loose connections.
  • Do you get a “relay 109” fault? If the check engine light or glow plug goes on and off, you may have a fault with relay 109 that requires replacing the relay. If that doesn’t work? You may have a faulty ignition switch or security system. You may also see the glow plug light if you have a burned out brake light.
  • Does your engine smoke when fully revved after a fill up? You may have received a poor quality fuel tank.

A Volkswagen TDI engine offers the best in performance and efficiency, but they are particular engines that require very specific maintenance and repairs. Always remember to replace faulty parts with genuine Volkswagen replacement parts, or choose your local VW service department for professional service from experienced, certified mechanics.

Digital Marketing

Rank Checker: An Indicator of Your SEO Progress

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Every website owner dreams of seeing their website on the first page of the Google listing. Rain of laser-targeted traffic, endless streams of visitors, skyrocketing sales – that’s what placing a website at the top of Google’s pedestal brings. But getting to the forefront of search results is a difficult task to complete. You should always be one step ahead of your online competitors, know what’s going on in your rival’s field, where your online rivals’ websites rank for the same keywords, etc. Only then will you be able to beat the immense competition online.

Once you’ve chosen your keywords and put a lot of effort into optimizing your website for them, it’s vitally important that you look at these keyword rankings. Tracking your website’s ranking fluctuations is crucial for several reasons:

1. It gives you a clear pattern of the competitive landscape in a particular keyword niche and allows you to assess how far you are from Google’s coveted top placement.

2. Rankings check allows you to stay ahead of the game and track search engine tweaks and updates before they negatively influence your websites traffic. If your website ranking drops for any keyword, you will be able to react quickly and take appropriate action to adjust your website. This way you will avoid a long-term negative effect on your traffic and sales.

3. Knowing where you and your competitors’ websites rank in search results can help you maximize the effectiveness of your SEO campaign and minimize your SEO efforts through more rational use of your SEO resources.

There are two ways to check your website’s positions for specific keywords: manually or by bringing SEO tools into play to check rankings.

The first way is very simple and does not cost a penny. All you have to do is go to Google, enter your keyword and find your website in the search results. Sounds easy, right? But what if your website just launched and isn’t in the top 100 yet? Imagine how many pages you will have to look through blind eyes in front of the monitor before coming across your site. Also, the results you get may be largely inaccurate. The point is that Google offers personalized search, so it doesn’t matter if you’re logged into your Gmail account or not, your search results will be affected by your previous search history. This is why you may get quite different results from what most other users see.

SEO tools for ranking check offer a more effective and accurate way to track your website’s positions. A good rank checker allows you to drastically reduce your SEO workload and quickly get accurate ranking data. There are many free and paid rank checkers. And here are the most popular:

SEO Book Rank Checker (Free) is a Firefox extension that allows users to easily monitor website rankings for specific keywords in Google (US and International versions), Yahoo, and Microsoft Live Search. But sometimes the results that this free rank checker provides can be quite inaccurate. The point is that Rank Checker groups 100 results per page to minimize scraping on Google. This type of grouping can cause a change in ranking when compared to only seeing 10 results per SERP.

Market Samurai (paid) is one of the most popular SEO tools on the market that also allows you to check website rankings in the Big Three: Bing, Yahoo! and Google. This application allows users to compare results with previous checks and draws progress graphs illustrating the progress of website rankings. But sometimes, for an unknown reason, this SEO tool does not provide users with correct ranking data and shows results that are quite different from what most users get on Google.

Link-Assistant.Com Rank Tracker (Free & Paid) allows users to monitor website positions for an unlimited number of keywords on over 700 search engines. Equipped with the “Competitor Tracking” feature, this ranking checker allows users to compare their website rankings with those of their top competitors so that users can compare their search engine presence and the effectiveness of their SEO campaigns. Furthermore, this SEO tool only provides laser-precise ranking results and nicely organizes ranking data into highly customizable ranking reports.

Health Fitness

What is the best protein to eat to gain muscle and weight?

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Protein is the big daddy when it comes to building muscle mass. It is the only vital food you must eat to gain muscle weight. The problem is knowing which foods are the best sources of protein. Many foods contain protein, some more than others, some of better quality than others. This article will explain the best sources of protein to eat for the most muscle mass gains.

Eat foods that contain complete sources of protein.

Complete sources of protein means that the food contains all 8 essential amino acids. Amino acids are what make up proteins and are the building blocks of muscles.

Making sure all the protein sources you eat contain complete sources of protein means your muscle will have all the amino acids and building blocks they’ll need to fully recover and grow. If you don’t provide complete protein, your body can combine amino acids from other foods you eat, but you need to make sure you get all 8. So it’s always best to eat only protein that will give your body all the protein it needs. it needs to grow, so you don’t have to wait for full fonts.

Foods that contain complete sources of protein and are therefore the best sources of protein include red meat, eggs, poultry, fish, whey, and dairy. All of these are great to eat to build muscle mass.

The Two Best Protein Sources for Incredible Muscle Growth

There are two sources of protein that are superior to the rest: beef and eggs. The combined effect of the two will put your body into an anabolic muscle building environment.

Beef contains proteins very similar to those of human muscle tissue, which means that it can be digested and synthesized into muscle mass very quickly and efficiently. Beef contains very high amounts of quality protein as well as healthy saturated fats. Fats will help raise your testosterone levels.

Eggs are one of the highest quality protein sources. Eat them cooked or raw. The yolk contains healthy fats and cholesterol. Testosterone is derived from cholesterol. Eating around 4 eggs will greatly increase your testosterone levels. The best times to eat eggs are in the morning, after exercising, and before bed.

Eat a good mix of these proteins, with healthy fats and fruits and vegetables to see the best muscle gains. Combine this diet with an intense weight training program to see very rapid muscle growth.

Legal Law

Article from Aruba

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Government and School

When you’re visiting a country for the first time, you want to know things like airport procedures, hotel accommodations, and places to see in the place you choose to visit. If Aruba is your choice for your next vacation, you obviously want details on these topics. In addition to doing research like this to make your vacation less stressful, you may also be interested in the cultural side of the island. When people who have never visited Aruba imagine it, white sand beaches and endless stretches of ocean probably come to mind. By reading an article or two about Aruba, you will discover that there is much more to the country than that.

Aruba is part of the Kingdom of the Netherlands, which means that it has a say in government affairs associated with that empire. Aruba gained full independence from the Netherlands in early 1986. The idea of ​​elections on the small island is a relatively new idea, having only been around for a little over two decades. The position of the Aruban government plays a significant role in everyday events on the island, as well as how regulations are implemented. You can learn more about the government of Aruba and how it can affect you as a traveler there by reading an Aruba article on the subject.

Perhaps the last thing on your mind when you’re on vacation somewhere is school. There are a few colleges and universities on the island that natives who go to primary school usually end up attending. Law is a popular vocation that is sought after in the universities of Aruba. People who graduate from the island’s schools meet the medical prerequisites of the United States, which means that they can practice medicine there after finishing their studies. This is interesting knowledge that can be found in greater depth in an Aruba article dedicated solely to the topic of school in Aruba.

While it is of course important to complete the research that is relevant to your visit before boarding a plane, additional research is also helpful. Perhaps you are interested in civics and fascinated by the government of the place you visit. Perhaps during your stay visit the island campuses before your spa treatment or swim in the ocean to see if it’s right for you or your child’s studies.

Lifestyle Fashion

Does Celery Increase Ejaculation?

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Most men pride themselves on being able to produce larger volumes of semen, while many others wish they could produce more semen. A higher volume of semen is not only good for fertility, but it can also do wonders for the pleasure of ejaculation.

This is largely because you need stronger contractions to release a larger volume of semen in ejaculation, and these stronger contractions produce intense pleasure.

Does Celery Increase Ejaculation?

Certain foods can help increase semen volume and celery is one of them. Although there are no studies to support this claim, most men say that they can produce more semen after having it for a couple of days.

Perhaps the best way to check it out is to have it yourself. After all, there are no side effects to having celery!

Foods that increase semen volume

Apart from celery, there are a couple of foods that can increase your ejaculation. Foods that are rich in certain minerals like zinc, selenium, and magnesium are very effective.

Here are some examples:

Foods that contain zinc include oysters, red meat, pumpkin seeds, nuts, and beans, etc.

Selenium-containing foods include poultry, cottage cheese, tuna, red meat, eggs, etc.

In addition to zinc, folic acid can not only help increase semen volume, but also improve sperm count. Studies have shown that when subfertile men take zinc and folic acid supplements, their fertility improves. Foods that contain folic acid include spinach, turnip greens, peas, broccoli, asparagus, citrus fruits, beans, etc.

In addition, you must also have enough water. This is because when your body is dehydrated, it is likely to produce a lower volume of semen.

Herbal supplements to improve semen volume

Although the above foods can be of great help, there are some herbal semen enhancers that have become a big hit with men looking to improve semen.

This is because not only are they safe and free of side effects and can increase your semen volume, but they can actually result in overall male sexual enhancement.

These semen enhancers are a blend of age-tested herbs and other nutrients that not only increase semen volume but also do wonders for your libido and ensure rock-hard erections by increasing blood flow to the genitals.

word of caution

Although there are many herbal supplements, you should be careful when selecting one. This is because such supplements are not regulated by the FDA. Therefore, it is important that the supplement you choose to purchase is clinically approved, doctor recommended, and manufactured in a cGMP certified or FDA approved facility.

Learn more about the best semen enhancers that are 100% natural, clinically approved and have helped thousands of men increase their semen volume without any side effects.

Pets

Do cats have OCD?

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Can cats have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder? Yes, they can, and often do. To understand why, it helps to take a look at why people get it.

It’s a side effect of stress and results in a variety of strange but mostly benign behaviors, including things like hair twirling, nail biting, hand washing, etc. In cats, we often see them over-grooming (to the point of small bald spots), sucking on household items like slippers or socks, and eating non-food materials like paper or plastic.

Since cats are very sensitive animals, they are quite vulnerable to stress from their environment. But since they don’t have human intelligence, it can be much harder to break the cycle and get them to stop a particular behavior, which may be necessary if they’re harming themselves.

Eating paper or plastic, for example, could lead to an intestinal blockage, and constant scratching at fur and skin can lead to sores that become infected and turn into ulcerations. Once the stressor or triggering situation is identified, it’s not like we can sit down with the cat and explain to him why he’s doing something, and then he can quit. By the time it becomes a real problem, it is already an ingrained behavior or habit. And habits are hard to break, even for humans who figure out why they do it.

To find ways to manage a cat’s obsessive behaviors, the first approach might be to identify the stress that may have started it and remove it. If their reactive behavior isn’t too ingrained, they may relax and stop doing some things. Even so, it could still be a challenge to stop the activity.

Some causes of stress-related compulsions include:

  • Separating a kitten from its mother too soon, interrupting the time they need to nurse and learn social skills with their siblings.
  • A chaotic home where the cat cannot relax. Sometimes grooming is a comforting behavior, so they will groom themselves more often, even constantly.
  • Changes in your environment. This is a list that could be quite long, but short, the usual ones are moving, rearranging furniture, different food, loss of a pet or human friend, new baby or pet added to the family, staying alone too long or too often . , being ignored… and more.

remedies may include:

  • Spend more time with the cat, either playing or just sitting together.
  • Feed a quality diet to ensure optimal health. Feeling good physically promotes feeling good emotionally.
  • A veterinary wellness exam to rule out any health issues and to discuss relaxation methods your vet might be familiar with. In extreme cases, a temporary series of tranquilizing preparations can help during a behavior modification program.

If you can’t solve the problem on your own, this might be the time to ask a feline behavior specialist for help.