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Is it a good idea to ignore your spouse during the separation to get him back?

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I often hear from people who are trying to come up with the best strategies for dealing with their spouse during a marital separation. The goal is to make your spouse want to get back together and be willing to save the marriage. To that end, one suggestion that is often given is to “ignore your spouse” or use “reverse psychology” so that they are more than willing to come back.

I recently heard from a wife who said that she had read that she should “completely ignore” her husband while they were apart so that he would love her that much more. And I can see why this strategy seems attractive. Basically, the idea is that if it works, you don’t have to do much (except a good job as an actor) and he will do exactly what you expected with enthusiasm and will. But my experience is that this strategy doesn’t always work this way. I will discuss some of the risks of this strategy (and tell you one that I think works best) in the next article.

Why I think ignoring your spouse during separation is not always the best idea: First of all, I don’t know many people who can fully pull it off. Unless you’re an award-winning actress or actor, it can be very difficult to make this convincing. (And if your spouse notices this, they will quickly lose respect for you.) The truth is, your spouse probably knows you better (and can read you more accurately) than anyone else. It is highly unlikely that they will not realize this.

And even if they buy your act, do you really want your spouse to think that you care so little about them and your marriage that your response is to simply ignore them? I am in favor of using some strategy to win back your spouse during a separation, but taking a stance to represent something that is completely opposite of what you really feel (and what you really want) is, in my opinion, not only risky, but not the best. call.

There are also many risks associated with this strategy. If you choose to ignore your spouse, you hope they are not so hurt or discouraged by this that they actually pursue you. Depending on your spouse’s personality and motivations, this may or may not work. However, your spouse may feel hurt or frustrated and respond by trying to move on or see other people. And even if it works, your spouse may eventually harbor some resentment for being manipulated. This is not good for your marriage.

I agree that sometimes strategic planning is needed during a separation. Here’s a strategy that I think is better than ignoring your spouse: One of the main ideas behind ignoring your spouse is that by not being there constantly or by not being fully available to them, you will appear more attractive (and they will love you more) as a result. I’m completely on board with the mystery-making strategy and it really ended up working for me. But there is a big difference between creating mystery and completely ignoring the person you are trying to win back.

I think there is actually a delicate dance between being in touch and showing that you care without being constantly available or completely transparent. I advocate communicating and interacting with your spouse on a regular basis while you are apart. That being said, I think you need to be very deliberate and aware of the cards you are playing while doing this.

What I mean by this is that you always want your spouse to know that you care deeply about him and about the marriage. (I think it’s even okay sometimes for them to know that you would like to save the marriage, but respect that both of you must make that decision.) Yet at the same time, you also want to make it clear that you care enough. about keeping yourself busy and vibrant and not hanging on to your spouse’s every word or whim.

In fact, it can help your cause if your spouse wonders where you are or why he occasionally doesn’t answer your call on the first ring. Does this mean that you are ignoring them? Absolutely not. You are simply giving the impression that you are also living your own life to the best of your ability during the separation. This will generally make you appear more attractive than someone who is anxiously awaiting your spouse’s next call or text (and who is falling apart when he doesn’t come).

I think it’s perfectly fine to limit or schedule its availability just to make it look like it’s being handled well. However, you don’t want to take this to extremes. Doing so shows a lack of respect towards your spouse and is dishonest in a way that (at least in my opinion) the position is not. For me, there is a difference between a strategy that puts you in the best position and a strategy that is dishonest and downright risky.

During my breakup, leaving the city and getting away for a while was a turning point that really made things better. But I did not do this in an attempt to ignore my husband. I did this because I wanted and needed the support of my family and friends. My husband knew where he was and would check with him from time to time. But the mystery and distance this created helped.

So while I think there is some validity in going back a bit and being very deliberate with your interactions during your breakup, I don’t advocate becoming completely unavailable unless you simply don’t want to or don’t want to interact with your spouse at all. It does not matter how they perceive it or react to this.

I understand that this strategy is probably one of many that has been suggested to you. And you will have to take your marriage and spouse into account when deciding how you want to play this. But it is my opinion that you always want to be true to your heart and not go to extremes or take great risks that could actually backfire if what you really want is to win back your spouse instead of alienating them.

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Live in harmony with others

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Living in harmony with others can be very difficult in these times. Many people get caught up in their own world and may forget that their behavior towards others can affect their own lives. Throughout our lives we experience anger, jealousy, envy, and resentment at one point or another, and no one is perfect. But all these negative emotions can eat you up and create chaos like no other in your life.

Anger

There is not a soul on earth who has not been angry with someone who they felt had done them wrong. It is in our nature to be angry. The average person can get angry several times a day. Have you ever been to a department store on the day of the biggest clearance sale and that extremely jealous woman almost hit you for the bargains? How about when the person besides you monopolizes all the bargains and you want to give him a piece of what you think? You find yourself biting your tongue to avoid saying some not-so-appropriate comments. I’m sure some people have witnessed an overly dramatic scene at a family gathering when too many personal matters are said out of anger.

Anger can cause a lot of problems and will reap its ugly head whenever our negative emotions take over. Many times the person you are angry with does not even realize how much pain and confusion the situation has created in your life. Some people are fully aware, but they don’t even care. While you drown in anger and hold a grudge, they are walking just as content with their life.

Sorry

The act of forgiveness is a difficult thing for many people to do. Many people feel that forgiving someone is letting the person get away with it and forces that person to do the wrong thing again.

The act of forgiving is not really for your benefit. Some people may care less if they are forgiven. The act of forgiveness is for you. Forgiveness releases negative hostile energy within you. This hostile energy is often responsible for disease. The word disease means not to be comfortable. When you are angry you are definitely not comfortable. Anger can cause stress and can also cause blood pressure levels to rise, which could contribute to heart disease, stroke, and other complications. It may not be easy, but it would be beneficial for everyone to learn to forgive.

Forgive yourself

In some cases, the person who has committed the dirty act may feel that he or she needs the other party’s forgiveness to move on. But they can actually forgive themselves, the other party is not necessary. There is no greater power outside of you than within your own being.

Jealousy

Jealousy is a very negative emotion. Negative emotions block positive results. Good things will not come to you with so much negativity. People tend to block their blessings when they don’t want blessings for others. If you want the best for yourself, you must want the best for others.

Jealousy is not just a negative emotion, it puts you in a state of lack. When you are jealous, you are afraid of losing something to someone else. For example: losing the special person in your life for another. Have you seen the woman who is so afraid that her partner will end the relationship that she pushes him away because of unnecessary accusations of infidelity? So, in a sense, she created her own loss.

Sometimes people are jealous when someone is complimented on their appearance or talent; they feel that it diverts their attention. What they’re saying is that they can’t shine anymore because someone else stole the spotlight. It sounds silly but it happens. That’s when they start to feel insecure and then it all goes downhill. The more you focus on lack, the more it will manifest in your life and create more problems than you can expect.

Envy

Envy usually occurs when you want what someone else has. Whenever you want what someone has, you are saying that I don’t have it. Once again, you are focusing on the lack of something.

People who experience abundance, prosperity, and love are usually positive people who realize that there is enough prosperity, love, and abundance for everyone. You don’t need to feel like you can’t achieve or have anything you want.

Resentment

Resentment is another negative emotion.

Some people harbor animosity against other people who feel they don’t deserve good things. For instance; see others succeed and really feel that they don’t deserve success. They may feel resentful and have a small desire to humiliate or annoy that person.

This emotion also puts you in a state of lack. What you are saying is that this person does not deserve anything. What you don’t want for others cannot come to you. In most cases, people tend to “reap what they sow.”

Love

Love is said to be the strongest positive emotion that human beings have. Love is said to be the answer to all problems on this earth. Many people tend to laugh at that concept. I can’t count the many times I’ve heard the saying “Love can’t pay the bills.”

Benefits of love

Do you remember the time when you looked at your spouse or that special person in your life and that strong emotion called love filled every inch of your inner being? Or do you remember when you held your newborn in your arms and that positive loving feeling like no other shone so bright inside you that everyone could see it on your face?

That strong positive feeling is a gift from God to you. People who have the most love in their life have been proven to be healthier and more content with their lives. If love is believed to be the strongest emotion, just think that if we learned to use it more often we would be healthier and experience more love, abundance and prosperity, and all the other positive possibilities under the sun. So, in a sense, love could pay the bills. And remember friends, when you see an attractive individual draw attention while walking in the latest fashions, although they may not have the same outfit or even show the slightest resemblance to that person, they still have within themselves the ability to be whatever. you dream. Let go of destructive emotions, because there is no need to carry so much negativity.

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Strange pilgrims by Gabriel García Márquez

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These days, stories are my cup of tea because each one can be devoured in one sitting.

Strange Pilgrims is a collection of twelve stories compiled by GG Márquez from his travels through Europe. Let me approach this through constructivism: Márquez’s style always makes use of magical realism and symbols are present in every story. The main themes are death and its effects on the living, as well as light and the absence of it. The common recurring symbol is blood. This reminds me of his profound use of blood and the bleeding incidents in Chronicles of a Death Foretold.

My top five Strange Pilgrims stories are (this is ridiculous, with GG Márquez it’s impossible to settle for just five!):

“I just came to use your phone” – Maria is driving alone to Barcelona when her car breaks down and she takes a bus that transports the women to an asylum. At their destination, Maria is supposed to be one of them.

Maria dos Prazeres- An elderly prostitute awaits her death to arrive at her apartment in Barcelona with her dog whom she has trained to cry on her grave.

Sleeping Beauty and the Plane – A very beautiful woman sits next to the author on a flight. He is completely captivated by her beauty, and here he expresses his musings.

The Ghosts of August: A family on vacation in Tuscany decides to spend the night at a friend’s castle where legend has it that the builder killed his girlfriend in bed before dogging himself. The family then discovers the truth of this story the next morning, where they wake up.

Tramontana- people seek refuge from the Catalan wind that the locals call the Tramontana, bringing with it the paranormal effects on everyone.

I have a special taste for these death stories:

Tramontana

Miss Forbes Summer of Happiness – Two young boys enjoy the serenity of a quiet summer vacation until a strict German babysitter arrives.

Light is like water: two young children ask for a boat in exchange for their good grades in school. Due to the absence of navigation water, the light bulbs in your home break and the light flows like water.

The Trail Of Your Blood in Snow-Billy takes his new wife to a hospital to help her stop the bleeding from a scratch on her ring finger from a rose thorn and he doesn’t know he will never see her again.

Márquez organized the stories himself in the order he wrote them. Each one has a pilgrim story to tell, in beautiful cities like Rome and Paris. Naturally, save the best ones for last.

Even the prologue has the strange story of Marquez to tell, of him visiting his own funeral and finally seeing his closest friends, but once the funeral is over, he alone cannot leave.

Gabriel José de la Concordia García Márquez is a Colombian novelist, short story writer, screenwriter and journalist. García Márquez, familiarly known as “Gabo” in his native country, is considered one of the most significant authors of the 20th century. In 1982 he was awarded the Nobel Prize for Literature.

He started out as a journalist and has written many acclaimed non-fiction and short stories, but is best known for his novels, such as One Hundred Years of Solitude (1967) and Love in the Times of Cholera (1985). His works have achieved significant critical acclaim and widespread commercial success, especially for popularizing a literary style labeled magical realism, which uses magical elements and events to explain real experiences. Some of his works are set in a fictional town called Macondo, and most of them express the theme of loneliness.

-Good readings

“The real memories seemed like ghosts, while the false memories were so compelling that they replaced reality.”

With Márquez, the name of the game is magic and majesty, each pilgrim emerges spellbound.

Next on my reading list is Ray Bradbury’s Fahrenheit 451, unless someone wants to donate another book to read. What’s on your reading list?

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How to Dress Like an R & B Superstar: 5 Easy Steps to Follow

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You have heard them on the radio, you have seen them on television; superstars like Chris Brown, Trey Songz, and Usher. Wherever they go, they have a certain presence, even an aura. However, what distinguishes them from ordinary people in everyday life is more achievable than you might think: their clothes.

Celebrities have been, and always will be, trendsetters, but there are certain guidelines you can follow that will give you the same amount of attraction and presence as R&B superstars.

  1. First of all, get in shape. Join a gym: There are very few supernova R&B singers today who are overweight. If you want to exude the same amount of presence as these celebrities, you’ll need to acquire a similar build – slim. So eat less, be healthier, and exercise more. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll look better in clothes (and without them).
  2. Second, wear close-fitting clothing. Obviously nothing too cheesy, but things like V-neck tees and skinny jeans tend to be very skinny and exude a confidence that most average joes don’t have.
  3. Third, don’t be afraid to stand out. That is the point. Buy jeans that make you say “Hmmm.” A great example of this is acid washed black and gray skinny jeans or jeans with rips and rips.
  4. Also, you can never have enough nice jackets, but make sure they are thin / fitted and not too baggy. And be sure to get some nice shoes to match this (when in doubt, go for white).
  5. Last but not least: accessories. There is nothing better than a daring watch, great looking glasses and a beautiful chain.

As a last note, again: don’t be afraid to experiment with colors that others may be afraid to try. In an example of this: I have some pastel colored t-shirts and a red jacket suitable for a Thriller video set.

With a little experimentation and this guide, you will turn heads like an R&B singer.

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Write as therapy

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It would be a mistake to underestimate the power of writing as a point of therapy. Most writers are aware of the therapeutic nature of writing, but most may be less willing to admit that writing therapy can be personally beneficial.

Sometimes, the writing that helps us the most on a personal and emotional level is the one that we do not want published. It is very personal, but it can help us understand something about ourselves.

Leslie Ridgeway and Dale Griffith have seen firsthand the benefits of using writing as therapy among inmates at the York Correctional Institute in Connecticut.

These two people worked with the women at YCI. They encouraged inmates to write down their innermost thoughts without the threat of conviction. They found that there was a sense of healing that took place when these women admitted their injuries in writing.

According to their 2002 report entitled “Struggles: Writing as Healing”, Ridgeway and Griffith admit that “many women had reached the limit of their coping skills … educational staff were concerned about the physical and mental health of women and argued ways to help them cope. ” . A safe harbor was needed in the emotional storm. “

The ‘Luchas’ program focused on using words to capture their memories of the violence in their lives.

One inmate wrote: “As children we are taught to respect and obey our parents. I usually covered myself with my hands up to protect my face and head. A reaction that I am sure is a survival defense mechanism. No I hurt my mother, but my physically defensive behavior of pushing her away from me brought her back to reality. The beatings finally stopped and I was left with the question why she hadn’t reacted to her actions years before. “

As we seek to identify with the pain the author feels, we also gain a sense of the release she feels as she finally says in print what has been repressed within her for so long.

An anonymous woman who participated in the inmate’s writing exercise reported: “Seeing our violent experiences in writing is more personal and real, especially when we read them aloud. When I listen to myself aloud, I am telling my experience to someone else. and emotional feelings, which have often been suppressed, hit me. “

As a focused writer, it may be helpful for you to take regular time to write something that is simply therapeutic. None of us came from perfect situations in life. By writing about your past, you can discover a sense of personal freedom and greater freedom to pursue your writing career with less baggage.

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A simple supplement to relieve back and joint pain

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Collagen supplements may benefit you more than you thought.

As a chiropractor, back pain is obviously a common reason people visit our Rapid City office. In addition to an adjustment, back pain is usually treated with rest, pain relievers, injections, or surgery. Hopefully, most cases can be alleviated with a chiropractic adjustment. New research has shown that collagen supplements are very beneficial for treating and preventing back or joint pain.

What Really Causes Back Pain?

Low back pain is a chronic condition in at least five percent of the US What’s even more alarming is the frequency of visits to the doctor for low back pain symptoms. Low back pain is the second most common ailment that sends people to the doctor. The main reason for lower back pain is usually a degenerated disc. The disc is located between the vertebrae and acts as a cushion or shock absorber for the various tensions or movements that we place on our spine.

Over time, these discs wear out and can even tear or break. This is often known as a herniated disc. By the age of fifty, nearly 95 percent of adults have some level of disc degeneration. When the degeneration or hernia is significant, this allows the vertebrae or disc material to press on the nerve that exits the spine. When this occurs, a person may experience lower back or leg pain, also known as sciatica.

Why collagen for disc degeneration?

Collagen is found in the body in its natural form. It is made up of branches of amino acids. These amino acids form the basis of connective tissue. Connective tissue is found in various structures such as ligaments, bones, and tendons. Collagen is also the main ingredient found in nails, skin, and hair. Collagen is not only good for hair, skin, and nails, but also for degenerative spinal conditions such as osteoarthritis or rheumatoid arthritis.

Collagen, together with hyaluronic acid, provides elasticity and strength to the vertebral discs. These ingredients also help retain water in the discs. The level of collagen in our discs decreases with age and we lose its cushioning effect.

So can I start taking any type of collagen?

Absolutely not! If you don’t take the correct type of collagen, you are wasting your money and you will not see positive benefits. The diameter of the normal collagen molecule is too large to be absorbed by the digestive tract. A specially designed collagen supplement, such as type 2 collagen, will be absorbed by the body. When you take a good collagen supplement, you need a lot of pure water.

In conclusion, a properly hydrated body, supplemented with a proven form of collagen, may be your best option to avoid or relieve low back pain.

To your health,

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Greg Gruba DC

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Pomeranian – The little lions

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Pomeranian dogs are a very sweet and endearing breed that are relatively easy to care for, but as is the case with all dogs, they require a lot of care and attention to thrive and do well. Dogs are a lifelong commitment and you shouldn’t consider acquiring one unless you are prepared to meet their every need.

Pomeranians belong to the toy dog ​​breed and have recently become very popular and are even considered by some to be a status symbol. Barbara Cartland, the famous romantic author, had one and many rich and famous people who owned these little dogs. Pomeranians have starred in many movies and their cute miniature lion appearance makes them highly sought after. Pomeranians are small dogs with thick fur around the neck region that makes them look like little lions.

Pomeranians have sweet and gentle personalities and love to be pampered and carried by their owners. Their small size makes them the quintessential lap dog. Another advantage of this breed is that its bark is barely audible due to its tiny size. Pomeranians resemble teddy bears or toy lions and this makes them very endearing in appearance.

Even their fur is fine and doll-like and they rarely develop a doggy odor. Pomeranians are a pleasure to have with their saber hair and quirky personality. As beautiful as your hair is, it can become a nuisance at times. They require a regular amount of grooming and can get dirty when defecating, especially if the dog has diarrhea.

Being very intelligent dogs, a Pomeranian will do everything in his power to hide his “accident” from you. You can drag your butt across the grass or the carpet, anything to hide the evidence of the “Crime”. That is why it is a good idea to keep your Pomeranian’s fur trimmed around his private parts. Some people prefer not to do this so as not to spoil the natural beauty of the dog, but since these accidents tend to happen more frequently, you may decide that cleanliness is more desirable than attractiveness.

Some Pomeranian owners claim that these dogs love to be held and placed on their laps as they are essentially lap dogs, but dogs are individuals and some dogs enjoy certain things while others don’t, so you’ll have to find out. what does your Pomeranian prefer. Although they are frequently shown in the movies to be held most of the time, they are dogs and, like all dogs, generally prefer a good run or game in the dog park to being held endlessly.

As with many toy breeds, these dogs require gentle but firm handling. They can get a bit bossy if given their way and you should always show them who the boss is. They need leadership and once they see you as the leader of their pack, they become loving and loyal companions. Don’t let your little Pomeranian’s cute appearance allow him to commit murder!

Pomeranians love to be the center of attention and exude an air of superiority and beauty. Being a toy breed, their antics are usually very entertaining and fun to watch. Being very smart you can easily train these dogs and all you need to do if you want to train your Pomeranian puppy is teach him to use a newspaper every time he needs to leave. If your puppy starts to sniff and go around in circles, put a newspaper underneath and you will soon understand what is required of him. Dogs quickly learn to use a newspaper when nature calls for them, and due to their small size, cleaning up after a Pomeranian is pretty easy, except when they get dirty!

If your Pomeranian gets dirty on its own, you should wash its butt, but be sure to use warm water so your dog doesn’t get cold. Try to make the experience as pleasant as possible for your dog or you will soon find that he will learn to hide from you when he gets dirty! These are very smart dogs!

Pomeranians are excellent escape artists and can run very fast too, so be very careful to make sure your dog can’t get through the fence if you have a backyard. Because they are so small, they can easily escape through small openings and their small size can make them unseen by drivers and easily run over. Their inquisitive nature can get them into a lot of trouble too, so always do your best to make sure your pet is safe.

Pomeranians need regular grooming to prevent their fur from tangling. This breed is also constantly moving and is not a good choice if you or someone in your household has pet allergies. They shed their soft undercoat twice a year and require daily brushing. Be sure to clean your dog’s eyes and ears regularly as part of his grooming program as well.

You should bathe your Pomeranian when necessary and dry him well. Using a hair dryer on these dogs is recommended to make sure they are completely dry, as wet fur can cause hot spots and inflammation. Dry shampoo is a good alternative, especially if you’re in a rush or the weather is very cold. Once you’ve dried your dog, applying a little baby powder and brushing it will make his coat shine and smell divine.

Pomeranians don’t need a special diet, but they can be picky eaters! As the breed is prone to dental problems, be sure to offer your dog crunchy and chewy food, but never feed chicken bones as they can splinter and kill your dog.

Pomeranians make excellent pets for people who live in apartments. Due to their small and manageable size, they are also ideal pets for seniors. Before acquiring a Pomeranian or any dog, make sure you have the time and means to care for it for the rest of its life.

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What is the difference between a company-owned mobile phone store and a licensed mobile phone store?

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Have you ever wondered what the difference is between AT&T, Verizon, T-Mobile, Sprint, etc.? stores in your local mall? I have traveled the country and understand that some markets are not that saturated having maybe only 1 cell phone store per operator (or less) in each mall, but for the most part there are usually at least 2, I have seen as many as 8, of the same carrier in the same mall!

Why would a carrier do such a thing? Why does a kiosk, cart or online store have different offers? What’s the difference between this AT&T store and that one, between this Verizon store and that one, etc.?

I will help answer what is the difference between a business-owned mobile phone store and a licensed mobile phone store.

Difference # 1 – There are two types of retail stores. One is the actual store of the company that is owned and operated by that trucking company and its employees. The second is an authorized retailer or distributor that is a separate business entity from the actual carrier. At the same time, the authorized retailer (reseller) is approved by the carrier itself to sell its services and products.

Difference # 2 – The phone no. 1 is $ 100 at this store vs. $ 50 at this store. Corporate stores for the most part are consistent across the board with phone pricing and plans. At the same time, authorized retailers can change prices within the limits of their agreement with the carrier and with the company’s profit and loss as to what would make sense. You can often find better deals at licensed retail stores, but the same can be said for operator-owned stores.

Difference # 3 – No secondary contract vs secondary contract? What is a secondary contract? A secondary contract is a contract that most licensed retailers use to help deter and secure the discount passed on to the customer. Example: A phone that sells for $ 100 is likely to cost the retailer between $ 50 and $ 200 more than the asking price. Believe it or not it’s true. On average, it could cost the retailer $ 100 more than the retail price. This is where the secondary contract comes in. If the consumer cancels their service with the operator before the minimum days necessary (concession period) for the company to earn their operator commission, they will lose not only their operator commission, but also the cost of the phone. Should this scare the consumer from buying from an authorized retailer? In my opinion, NO. The only reason it should scare the consumer is if you plan to cancel your service and not return the phone within the grace period granted.

Are Corporate Stores Better Trained Than Authorized Retailers? In my experience, it depends on the actual store and employees. I’ve seen it go both ways.

In theory, both carrier-operated stores and licensed retailers coexist and should respect each other. In practice, I’ve seen him both friendly and downright fierce between the two of them. So if you happen to be shopping and visiting authorized and corporate owned dealers, be sure to follow your instincts and buy from whoever you feel most comfortable with.

Key thought when buying: Buy from the seller who rates you the best. That is, it asks you the right questions to help you adjust to the right phone and plan. If they don’t ask you the basic questions … keep shopping!

Hope this article helps you.