The pain and loss over my husband’s death left me somehow. I will speak the truth with love, but the truth nonetheless. Going back to being human was something that seemed and was so far from me, I tell you! Finding out what happened to her was worse than the shock I felt when I was a little girl sitting in front of the television and watching Walter Cronkite drop his microphone while broadcasting the news that President Kennedy had been shot to the head! And being so young and had never experienced trauma like that, I could only scream and cry there on the floor in front of that black and white television!

“The network’s coverage of the assassination and funeral of John F. Kennedy guarantees its reputation as the most moving and historic passage in the history of broadcasting. On Friday, November 22, 1963, news bulletins appeared reporting rifle fire. during the president’s caravan in Dallas, Texas. normal programming. ” – Internet.

I was told on the phone about my husband’s impending death, and my legs instantly turned to rubber as my whole body began to shake. I felt dizzy, but I didn’t and how I walked to where he was, I don’t know.

And while I marvel here at how the body works even under extreme stress, it confirms what it says in Psalm 139: 14: I will praise you; for I have been made formidably and wonderfully: wonderful are your works; and that my soul knows it very well.

When you experience a major stressor in your life; Whether it’s the stressor of having to take an exam or experiencing the traumatic death of a loved one, that stress response will kick in. And before you ask, like that little girl, she loved President Kennedy. I could hear my mom who never missed the 6:00 PM news on Channel 12; and other elders talk about him. Also, I remember this speech or at least that part of it; “Don’t ask what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country!”

So when a stressor is captured by the mind, the brain, in short and by definition, undergoes a process called “acute stress disorder.” Acute stress disorder is the result of a traumatic event in which the person experiences or witnesses an event that causes the victim / witness to experience extreme, disturbing or unexpected fear, stress or pain, involving or threatening serious injury , perceived serious injury or death. to oneself or to another person. – Wikipedia.

The acute stress reaction or shock, as we know it, is a psychological and physiological condition in response to a frightening or traumatic event. The initiation of a stress response is associated with specific physiological actions elicited by the sympathetic nervous system, both directly and indirectly through the release of adrenaline and norepinephrine from the adrenal glands. These are the hormones that give you the strength and energy to run; or lift a car of your child. So, a hormone is a chemical substance, formed in an organ or part of the body and transported in the blood to another organ or part where it exerts functional effects; Depending on the specificity of their effects, hormones can alter the functional activity and sometimes the structure of a single organ or tissue or of several vessels. You can fight or run. This is the fight or flight response. Have you heard people wondering how this and that happened in the world? These hormones are responsible for what appears to be superhuman strength, when a person could not do whatever it is they just did otherwise. Whether it’s climbing a flight of stairs in record time or picking up a car, or reaching the other side of town at record speed! In technical terms, an abundance of catecholamines at neuroreceptor sites facilitates dependence on spontaneous or intuitive behaviors often related to combat or flight.

And it can and does happen continuously over and over again when a stimulus is perceived as threatening, a more intense and prolonged discharge from the locus ceruleus activates the sympathetic division of the autonomic nervous system; which is research done by Thase & Howland in 1995. See why we have to speak the truth with love !!! Pain and loss evoke the response of fear, but oh against love! Love, on the other hand, and your brain, which detects and feels love, releases hormones like dopamine, adrenaline, norepinephrine, oxytocin, the well-being hormones, which have the power to reduce stress and lower blood pressure, according to research from the University of North Carolina. High stress and anxiety are linked to high blood pressure, increased heart rate, and other factors that can contribute to heart disease and weight gain.

We have enough in our daily lives, so let’s love a little more and give our bodies a little rest.

We, all of us as a people historically will not seek help. I want to emphasize that here. Get some help! Look what you are doing to your body! Our organs weren’t meant to have to work so fast and hard all the time. And eventually, if you don’t give your kidneys a break, you’ll deplete them of their cortisol. Cortisol is a steroid hormone, more specifically a glucocortoid, produced by the adrenal gland. It is released in response to stress and a low level of glucocorticoids in the blood. Its main functions are to increase blood sugar through gluconeogenesis; suppress the immune system; and aids in the metabolism of fats, proteins and carbohydrates. And to speak English, get the strength you need to make your body run away from that bear !!!!!

And let’s consider what happens to us if we are constantly in a state of stress and fear. Have you ever heard of diabetes, is someone possibly wondering or perhaps connecting a few dots about its origin? Have you heard of high blood pressure? Yes. And heart disease. Yes, a possible cause, from having to beat so fast under the effects of adrenaline and cortisol released in response to stress. And now dialysis because your kidneys have worked so hard. Now I can tell by studying these facts, there may be a correlation, but you will need to be seen and diagnosed by your doctor. And you may find help relaxing through the treatment modality of your choice, such as: Aromatherapy, Hypnotherapy, TimeLine Therapy: Optimum Focus Ionic Foot Bath; to slow down those kidneys. Yes, I am also a STOIC (firmly resisting the response to pain or distress) and I keep to myself when I have problems. Either way, it will be time to recognize when to seek help.

I’ll say here that he did it for me. Not intentionally sought out, but as an aside from releasing fear, anger and sadness in my own NLP refresher class – Neuro-Linguistic Programming from the Tad James Company. This time, I am recounting what happened in Las Vegas!

Yes, we will all have to go through the Grief and Loss processes and hopefully be okay. And since I know that music can convey a message better than anything else, and if any emotions have been aroused here since the earlier part of this post, maybe a video. like mighty clouds of joy; sing “I’ve been in the storm too long!”

Our experience and human potential is a transformative process. We can move from one state to another and give both our psychology and our physiology a little rest. Those little chemicals are really good at what they do. Designed by the best. Now I am through the grace of God and the LOVE of all of you, friends and family alike; Now I can say that I am much better for it. Thank you all !!