My husband cheated on me and now I feel like my life is crashing down around me. This is how most women feel when their husband makes the terrible and selfish decision to cheat. It’s not that husbands are the only ones who cheat. However, they seem to do it more than women. It is difficult to get real and accurate statistics on how many husbands or wives are unfaithful. If you were cheating, would you admit it to someone? The real information about infidelity comes from spouses who have confessed or been caught cheating. Sure there are more men cheating than women.

Couples and families often face many challenges. There are big and small obstacles that couples and families have to overcome. For some families, lack of money puts pressure on relationships and homes. When the focus is on getting the bare minimum to live a quality life, sometimes relationships fail. As a result, the spouses break up over time and, in some cases, blame each other for the difficult situation in the family. Yes, it is true that for some families relationships are closer as the family comes together to overcome challenges. I wish it were like that in all families but it’s not like that.

However, when husbands cheat, it’s a different kind of roadblock. The family cannot unite around a cause. Life gets really weird when your husband cheats on you. No one can really describe for you what he feels or what he does to the family. I know people who said what they would do if their husband ever cheated on them. Once it actually happened, they had no idea what to do. Rest assured, they did not immediately do what they said they would do. We plan in our mind what we think we are going to do, but our heart and emotions take over and guess what? We struggle with what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. Life gets really weird for the next 365 days and more.

My Husband Cheated On Me: How Weird Will The Next 365 Days Be?

So how does it look weird? The definition of strange is “Strikingly strange or unusual, especially in a disturbing way; strange:” Another definition is “strange and unlike anything natural or ordinary:”

This is how the relationship will be after the infidelity is discovered. It will be very unstable and unusual.

Intimacy will be non-existent or very uncomfortable at best. Holding hands, the public display of affection will feel awkward.

Separation will be stressful. There will be moments of anxiety as the weeks and months go by. Doubt and suspicion will dominate the thoughts of the mind and the feelings of the heart. When he’s late for work, you’ll wonder if he’s cheating. As the unanswered phone call occurs, questions will arise as to who was calling and if it is his lover. Any persistent look at another lady will trigger feelings of betrayal, resentment, and anxiety. Life will be just weird in the next year.

Husbands who cheat and are truly sorry for what they did will go to great lengths to make amends. They will often be less resistant to your requests. A cheating husband will argue less and do everything he can to get you back on your feet. What he will expect is forgiveness and a return to the relationship before the cheating. Unfortunately, it’s not always that easy to get things back to normal. Still, for some couples, normalcy wasn’t so great to begin with. In general, there were some problems before the adventure happened. Returning to a state of conflict and unhappiness is not the best thing that can happen.

Why husbands cheat on their wives has been talked about for centuries. There are those husbands who cite popular reasons such as;

• Needed more attention

• I was seduced by my lover

• My wife no longer makes me happy

• I was under the influence and made a mistake

The list of excuses can be quite creative on the part of some cheating husbands;

• I wanted to be a better lover for my wife

• Helped relieve stress and made me a better husband and father

• I did it to help my career

• I thought it would keep me happy and allow me to stay married

The thing about husbands’ confessions is that they are not thought to be weird no matter how honest they are told. No wife really understands why her husband cheated on her unless she has deliberately taken steps to drive him away. If their relationship was under extreme stress and they were virtually divorced physically and emotionally, she might understand. Otherwise, the cheating husbands explanation falls on deaf ears and a cold heart.

When a husband cheats, it takes a long time for his wife to believe and trust him again. It happens and it could happen sooner than she deserves for her to trust him again. Trust is regained through a series of actions and reactions. If your husband has cheated on you, take the time you need to trust him again. However, once you decide that he has gained your trust back, make sure he has boundaries. Without them, neither of you will know what is acceptable or unacceptable behavior.

So how weird will it be because he cheated? Very rare! Now you have to rebuild your life together with this problem that has separated you. If others know about the matter, it is even more difficult to heal your marriage. The good news is that you can get over your husband’s infidelity, if that’s what you want to do. You will not be the first or the last couple to overcome infidelity.

A broken heart and family are hard to rebuild. It is very important that you realize that it is a different process for each couple. Some are able to quickly recover from the husband’s affair and put their marriage back on the right track. Others take years to mend their hearts and get their lives back on track. Unfortunately, many couples cannot reconcile and end up getting divorced.

If you are facing this strange stage that is coming in your marriage because your husband cheated on you, take heart. There are better days ahead for you and your spouse who is cheated on. You can restore trust, rebuild love, and get your life back, despite your husband being cheated on.