Real Estate

How to Make Money with Real Estate – Some Strategies for a Successful Real Estate Business

Learning how to make money with real estate is important if you are new to the industry or if you really want to succeed in this type of venture. In fact, the real estate business can be a lucrative pursuit, of course, since you also know how to manage the risks that come with it.

In fact, big risks come with real estate business and if you have what it takes to become a real estate tycoon then you can make a good deal buying and selling houses.

Of course, there is more to buying and selling real estate. There are also several factors that you need to consider in order to make good profits. If you want to try and learn how to make money with real estate, here are some strategies and tips that can help you get off to a good start in this business.

Holding on to the property until the price is right to sell. One strategy that people do is to hold on to the property they just bought and wait until the market value goes up, profiting on their price differences. Of course, while you wait for this right time to sell, you can rent the property and make it productive. However, the risks involved in this strategy can be high. When the market price of real estate deteriorates, you can also incur tons of losses.

If you are one of those who does not enjoy waiting, then you can also turn around. The idea behind flipping is to buy a house or property at a low price and sell it in a matter of days or months. You can make a profit with this strategy, especially if there are major changes in the market price of the property that are favorable for its sale.

Another technique when selling a property is to buy houses that need renovation or minor repair cheaply, do all the repairs, and sell them at a much higher price. Of course, you are selling a property that is already fixed up, so you can also sell it at a good price.

Foreclosed property is also a good investment if you want to learn how to make money with real estate. Most of the time, foreclosed properties sell for a lower price or a good price and this can be a good opportunity to find the best deals with houses and properties that you can then sell.

To get the best price for your property, you can also invest in home staging. This is often a good marketing strategy that will allow you to price your properties well and also help you sell purchased properties quickly. Of course, you are giving your potential customers an idea about what to do with the house and what it is like when everyone has put in the effort to decorate and stage the acquired property.


Stocks and bonds and a stock collecting chimpanzee

Historically, stocks and bonds have been an excellent long-term investment vehicle. In essence, it means ownership in the businesses that power the world. As the world grows, so do the companies and the underlying stocks that are their foundation. Financial markets are no longer dictated by a few powerful exchanges like the New York Stock Exchange and Deutsche Boerse (German), but are instead affected by a vast, complex, and interconnected web of financial pick-sticks. Of course, there are many ways to invest in these global chunks of corporate property, but for now we’ll leave the attractive, if risky, methods of trading stocks involving derivatives, currencies, and day trading to other columns.

Lusha, the investment guru

Investing in stocks and bonds is very simple in principle: buy low and sell high. Easy enough, in fact, fortunes have been made by men with PhDs and MBAs alongside their names and financial network TV celebrities who have written volumes on trends and charts and flash and stochastic indicators and investing psychology and even rallies based on whether the Dallas Cowboys win or lose. Everyone is an expert and everyone has different opinions, literally thousands of opinions. There’s also a now-famous chimpanzee in Russia named Lusha who throws her poo at a list of stocks on a chart, and those stocks have tended to match or beat the picks of some of the world’s most sophisticated analysts. What does this tell us? That buying low and selling high is not so easy or, better yet, we can choose to pay big fees to analysts or hire a much cheaper primate to be our stock picker.

Indicators and Common Sense

A good place to start shopping for stocks, bonds, and mutual funds is to learn a little about indicators. These are tools that provide an analytical look at a company and the relative price of its shares. One of the most common is the P/E ratio (Price Earnings Ratio) which looks at the current price of a stock in relation to its earnings per share. That makes sense! The P/E ratio is simply the stock price divided by the earnings per share (which can be found in any number of financial publications). A high P/E ratio could indicate that a stock is overvalued and a low P/E ratio could imply that a stock is undervalued, but this is only one indicator and is completely unstable. As an example, during the dotcom bubble, some companies had no earnings like at zero P/E… nothing… a big fat donut… and yet these stocks sold through the roof at hyperinflated prices. Which brings us to the most important indicator you can use. It sits on the six-inch-wide analyst tucked between his two ears.

Warren Buffett said, “Invest in what you know.” For example, perhaps he agrees that there is an aging post-World War II baby boomer population. What does that mean? It could mean that companies that sell services or products to seniors will do well for years to come. You might invest in a start-up called FN Walkers Inc. (fictional) that has developed a compact titanium walking device with a built-in espresso maker. The company is reporting sky-high backorders. Or you could consider Government Bonds. These are generally the safest investments on the planet and tend to do well in times of turmoil. Because? Because investors run to safety faster than squirrels on a golf course. When the missiles start to go off around the world, investment dollars flow like rivers to safe havens and consequently the price goes up. With bonds, forget stochastic oscillators and 10-year moving averages and pray for volatility and bad news!

After all, you don’t need an expensive investment guide or a pooping chimpanzee.

Diversify by putting your eggs in one big basket

There is another way to buy stocks and bonds. It is through mutual funds. A mutual fund is simply a managed collection of stocks, bonds, or commodities held in one big basket and run by really smart people. Mutual funds come in many packages, such as funds based on Dow Industrial Stocks or growth companies or corporate and government bonds, or pharmaceuticals or emerging markets, say in China or Brazil. The theory is that owning a small part of a hundred shares is safer than owning a large amount of a single share. Another advantage of owning mutual funds is that they are completely liquid, which means that you can exit your position almost immediately. Mutual fund returns are largely based on the experience of the fund manager, and results can be closely monitored in many cases with a 1-year, 5-year, 10-year, or even 20-year moving average.

This author’s pet peeve requiring anger management counseling

Always, Always, Always, listen to the advice of your stockbrokers or the advice of so-called experts. On October 9, 2007, the Dow Industrial Average reached an all-time high of $14,164. After that, it started to free fall like a base jumper without a parachute and finally hit hard to a low of $7062 on Feb 27, 2009. Investment gurus were telling us to hold on…the market will rally. Poppycock, Fubar!!! It’s better to sell the stock as high as possible to get out and then get back in when it convulses into a splattered heap on the floor. If you exited some time after the market started to sell off and then re-entered after the dust settled, you would be in a substantially better position than just letting the investment flow, in fact, even though the market is now dancing around 12,000, you would still be 15% BELOW the market high which hit $14164. Isn’t that what brokers are supposed to do?

Anyway, I get sick on fast roller coasters.


How to create your own podcast

But first, what is podcasting?

Podcasting is a relatively new type of technology, so here’s some background for those who haven’t come across the term yet. The definition on wikipedia is pretty good:

“Podcasting” makes audio files (most commonly in MP3 format) available online in a way that allows software to automatically download the files for listening at the user’s convenience.

The way I see podcasting is a cross between a radio show and a blog. The best thing is that anyone can produce a podcast with little out of pocket and only a very basic knowledge of IT. Once you’ve produced a podcast, you can allow people to subscribe to receive updates when they’re uploaded to your website. This is done in much the same way as using an RSS reader to syndicate blog/news feeds (more on this later).

How did I make and publish my first podcast?

The first step for me was research. I wanted to know what other podcasts were sounding like and what other people were doing (particularly in my field of personal finance). This was also a useful activity to remove fears that all podcasts already produced would be of a very professional quality; some are, but most are not!

Once I established that no one else was doing what I was planning to do (with the exception of Martin Lewis, the money-saving expert, but this is more about saving money than financial planning), it was time to figure out how to record my first show.

I planned to record ten minute shows, which would reduce production time and also keep the file size quite small. Since this is an audio file hosted on our website, I wanted to make sure it wasn’t too big (to keep download times fast but also to save on bandwidth restrictions).

To record my podcast content, I first tried using ‘Sound Recorder’ that comes with Windows XP. This was not ideal for a couple of reasons. Recording time is limited to 60 seconds, which would have meant cutting my planned show into ten perfectly timed segments, then editing them all together. He also wouldn’t have allowed me to talk over background music (something I felt was important for a professional sounding show/intro).

I searched the web and found free software to try at This software is called Propaganda 1.0 and it offers a complete solution for the would-be podcaster. I downloaded the free trial to make sure it did everything I wanted and then paid $49.95 to activate the full version.

I wanted to make sure my podcast wasn’t ten minutes on pensions, so I had my sister record some sound bites for me. These were just simple audio snippets that I could use to introduce the show, break up the content, and use them to end the podcast (my regulatory warning/disclaimer).

In terms of hardware, I only used a headset with a microphone; the same system I use for Skype. This cost me £10 at Dixons and it does a good job in terms of recording a single voice.

Using Propaganda I was able to record content for the show, line up up to 16 different audio tracks (including background music), and play around with time. This entire process took less than 2 hours before I was satisfied with the final version.

publishing my podcast

The Propaganda software also makes it quite easy. Essentially, there are three steps to publishing your podcast.

1 – Create an MP3 file of the podcast. MP3 seems to be the most common file format for podcasts, so I stuck with tradition. Propaganda allowed me to convert the 16 audio tracks I had lined up into a single MP3 file and choose the most suitable file quality. I went for something in the mid-range, not too low because the sound quality suffered, and not too high to keep the file size reasonable (less than 4MB).

2 – Host the MP3 file on your website. I use MS Frontpage to design my website and some free FTP software to transfer files from my PC to the Internet. To host the archive, I also built a basic web page that would tell potential listeners a little more about my podcast in general, and more about this podcast show in particular.

3 – make an RSS feed. Again, Propaganda did this for me with their post feature. The RSS feed is the syndication feed that allows podcast players to find your podcast and subscribe to updates. When you produce a new podcast show, you update this RSS feed (which is hosted on your website) and the various podcast players notice the update and download the new podcast for the listener.

promoting my podcast

Now that he had a podcast, he had to get some listeners! I posted a help request on an online network,, and got some very helpful responses. It seems that the main directory for podcasts is Apple’s iTunes, so I started there. It’s very easy to get listed as all they need to know are the links to your podcast, website and RSS feed. There is a vetting process going on so I had to wait a couple of days to get listed, but on Sunday morning I found my link and was able to use iTunes to download, listen and subscribe to my podcast.

There are many other podcast directories out there, but one that caught my eye was As this only lists UK podcasts (most directories, including iTunes, are US-focused), it should result in a more relevant audience.

In addition to being listed in various directories, I’ve added a blog to my website and a mention in my Ecademy signature. The combined effect of these two elements is to rank highly on when the search term ‘personal finance podcast’ is used.

I think I had a pretty good story to tell the press now as this is the first time a podcast has been published from the UK (personal finance from an independent financial adviser). I’ve already gotten some positive responses from the business press, so this week I plan to turn to the consumer financial press.

Whats Next?

Well, in addition to working on show number two, I plan to improve the production quality of the show as time goes on. You might consider producing some ‘jingles’ that you can mix into the show to improve the feel and quality of the production. There is, of course, a business reason for producing this podcast as it will (hopefully) generate new inquiries and a higher profile on the web and in the press.

For anyone considering their own podcast (or who has read this article and thinks it might be something you could do), I suggest you go for it! Podcasting is still at a very early stage and not many people in the UK have caught on to the technology yet. With the explosion in ownership of the iPod and other MP3 players, all predictions point to massive growth in the podcast market.

Since relatively few people produce their own podcasts, now is a great time to launch your own show before your competitors catch on to the idea.

Home Kitchen

Door closers: the different types and their role in fire safety

Fire safety refers to the precautions taken to prevent or reduce the likelihood of a fire that can cause death, injury, or property damage. It also refers to the ability to alert those in a building in the event of a fire, to better enable the survival of those threatened by fire, or to reduce the damage caused by a fire. Safety measures include those that are planned during the construction of a building, those that are added to existing buildings, and those that are taught to the occupants.

One such fire safety measure is the installation of fire doors. This includes door closers, which are mainly used in commercial and public buildings, but can also be used in the home when circumstances warrant. They have a variety of uses and applications, one of the main ones being keeping a door closed to limit the spread of fire and drafts in a building. There are many different types of door closers available ranging from the simplest door spring to the more industrial floor springs.

An automatic door closer requires power to work, while a manual door closer uses physical force. There are also three basic designs available: suspended, leg-mounted, and surface-mounted. Those that can be installed on the surface or concealed are known as overhead door closers. Likewise, installing them between the door and the door frame can hide jamb-mounted door closers.

Choosing a door closer may involve considering a variety of criteria. In addition to the closer’s performance in fire situations, other criteria may include resistance to opening forces, as well as health, safety, durability, vandalism risk, and aesthetics. The hold-open electromagnetic door closer uses an electromagnetic force to hold it open. This type of closer is usually connected to the building’s fire alarm system. The great advantage of installing this type of device is that it overcomes the dangerous practice of using wedges or other objects to hold open a fire door. Once the fire alarm is activated, the door closes. The same principle applies to electromagnetic free motion but instead of keeping it open; allows the door to move without resistance.

Delayed action locks are commonly used in hospitals, schools, and nursing homes. This allows the gate to remain open for a predetermined amount of time before closing at an adjustable speed. Such a system will allow people in wheelchairs or the elderly to pass through the gate before it begins to close. This is also useful in areas where carts are used.

Concealed mount door closers are widely used for the entrance doors of commercial buildings as they serve a functional function while maintaining the aesthetic appearance of the door. They are also available that can be hidden in the upper part of the door. Although this is a great way to ‘hide’ the closer, a large portion of the door must be cut out to accommodate the body and this will reduce the door’s fire integrity. It is always a good idea to check with a fire safety specialist if this type of door control is suitable. There is also a type of closer that will fit into the side of the door with the mechanism contained within the door.

A pullback action provides resistance within the door closer to prevent the door leaf from swinging open. This prevents damage to the door, door frame and door handles caused by people kicking or pulling the door open and also from the door being thrown open by the wind. The angle and resistance of the rear brake can be varied according to your requirements. These door closers are used in busy corridors in schools, hospitals and public superstructures.

For disabled, frail or elderly people, a quiet action door closer is required to allow them to move the door with less force. These are used in schools and other public buildings where the DDA or the Disability Discrimination Act is considered.

Automatic door closers allow doors to open or close whenever the person is within the proximity area. It closes when the device knows it is safe to do so. These are commonly used in commercial areas as well as local authority buildings and hospitals.

Overhead door closers are manufactured with different or adjustable resistances to accommodate variation in door size and weight. The larger and heavier the door, the greater the force required to close it. The recognized standard for rating door closers is to assign the door closer a numerical value between 1 and 7, with the higher number indicating greater capacity and closing force. The recommended minimum size of door closer installed on a fire door is 3. Air pressure on the door from wind is also a consideration, which could lead to a size number greater than the actual door weight needed.

Digital Marketing

Easy ways to get more traffic for blog posts

Anyone can create a blog or website today and be online in a matter of minutes. However, without traffic, that new website or blog will do you very little. Traffic generation doesn’t have to be difficult and there are many free methods you can use to get more traffic to your blog and the websites you own.

The first method is to have an active Facebook page that links to your blog or website. Build your fan page by commenting on other popular Facebook pages in your niche. Don’t spam, but be an active part of the conversation. People will see your post and can visit your page, if they “like” your page, you have them as an audience. Once you have a good size fan base, you can post links to new blog posts you publish and generate easy traffic.

Article marketing is another free but effective and time-tested method of getting more traffic to the blog posts you write. Article marketing means that you are writing articles that are related to your niche and submitting them to major article website directories like EzineArticles.

Each article you write and submit allows you to place links in the author resource box at the end of the article. When the reader is done with the article, they often click on the link to read more. So make sure your content is of good quality so that the reader has a reason to see more of what you offer.

Asking other blog owners in your niche if you can provide them with a guest blog post in exchange for placing some links in the article back to your site is a great way to get free traffic. As long as the content is 100% unique to that blog and of high quality, most blog owners will be happy to post free content!

If you want faster results, you can always try pay per click to get more traffic to blog posts. Pay per click means that you are paying for every click you receive. One of the most popular programs is Google AdWords. Be careful with pay per click and set your daily budgets low to start with or you could end up owing a lot of money for little performance.

As you can see, there are many low-cost and easy ways to get more traffic for blog posts. Each method will require a bit of work on your part, but like anything, the more you put in, the more you’ll get. So stay focused and before you know it you will have a lot of traffic to your blog!


The 10 most effective home remedies for tonsillitis

Tonsils are known as part of the immunity system present in the mouth. However, there are certain conditions that can lead to damage and infection. The state of inflammation of the tonsils is known as tonsillitis. The person suffering from tonsillitis often experiences a sore throat, difficulty swallowing, pain in the ear, weakness, and enlarged lymph nodes.

Before consulting a doctor for treatment, it is recommended to try some home treatments capable of treating this undesirable disorder.

  1. salt and water – It is the most common home remedy for tonsillitis to gargle with salt added to warm water.
  2. vegetable juices – Vegetable juices such as carrot, cucumber and beetroot are in fact the most effective home remedy to treat tonsillitis. You can consume these juices separately or as a mix.
  3. Mustard – It is often suggested to rinse the throat with a solution prepared by mixing mustard powder in hot water. This helps to clean the germs that cause this problem in the throat.
  4. lemon and honey – The mixture of lemon juice with honey prepared in hot water is another great remedy to relieve sore throat and infection. You can also add a pinch of salt into the mix.
  5. Fenugreek seeds – Fenugreek seeds should be boiled with water and the resulting mixture should be used as a gargle to alleviate this problem. However, you must allow the mixture to cool down before using it.
  6. Milk – Pure boiled milk is another recommended home remedy to treat tonsil infections. It is also recommended to add turmeric powder and pepper powder to the milk before consuming it.
  7. Banafsha Flowers – You can boil 12g of banafsha flowers with milk and filter it after boiling. Filtered milk should be drunk warm to relieve tonsil infections in the throat. Also, you can use the flower extracts filtered in the above process and gently massage it around your throat before going to bed.
  8. Turmeric – Due to the antiviral and antibacterial properties that turmeric presents, it is recommended to prepare a paste of turmeric roots in hot water and apply it externally around the throat.
  9. Dried figs – Dried and boiled figs are quite effective in reducing the pain and roughness caused by tonsillitis. You must crush these figs and consume them with a tablespoon of honey.
  10. onion and ginger – Onion juice and ginger juice are considered to be the best home remedies for various problems and tonsillitis is one of them. You can use these juices as a gargle to reduce a sore throat.

dietary recommendations

You need to follow a perfect diet plan to relieve tonsillitis. You must consume fresh fruits and vegetables to benefit your throat against this problem. Also, products such as yogurt, tea prepared from Echinacea, Goldenseal, nuts and cereals.

You should avoid alcohol, tobacco, spices, seasonings, fried foods and carbonated drinks in case of tonsillitis.

Health Fitness

Fructose malabsorption: I’m starving! What can I eat?

When starting a fructose malabsorption diet, you should eat as simple as possible. Give your body time to heal. A simple and delicious recipe, very healing and easy to digest, is steamed fresh spinach and white rice. This is something you will be able to eat every day as long as you keep the portions small. Create a peaceful environment when you eat and never eat more than your belly can handle. Eat slowly. Enjoy every cock. The healing of the body begins from within. Meditate on love and peace in your life throughout the day. Learn proper breathing techniques and use them. Find time to relax each day.

You may or may not be able to eat the following foods. Not everyone can eat the same thing and because there are multiple intolerances that people can have, we are all affected differently by certain foods. This is a guide. Remember to pay attention to your body and write everything down in a journal or food notebook. Spread out meals and snacks throughout the day. Portion sizes are crucial. Sometimes half a serving will be tolerated, but not a whole serving. Never eat more than one serving unless you know you can tolerate it. Start small, think good food. Also, always check the ingredients. Not all products are created equal, and often a product will change ingredients without notice. You should check the labels every time you make a purchase. Many foods and drinks contain HFCS. HFCS is a big no-no for fruitfuls. Remember that FODMAP’s have a cumulative effect on the body. You might be okay with a slice or a meal, but if they get a chance to attack you, they will. Keep them in check by knowing your limits and keeping portions small. You can heal yourself. You are halfway there. Give yourself a gold star. You are on your way to a bright, happy and full belly, rich in nutrition and satisfaction.

meat and protein

All meat is tolerated as there is no fructose or other fermentable carbohydrates present in the meat. Organic meat is a great option because it is not only healthier but also tastes much better. Be aware of additional ingredients, such as breadings, additives, fillings, and sauces, as they may contain FODMAPs. Be aware that some processed meats use lactose in the meats. Check with the deli. Fish and shellfish are safe as long as they do not contain intolerable ingredients. Always check the ingredients. It is best to prepare meals from scratch because then you will know what is in them. Eggs and tofu are adequate protein sources.

Safe Grains and Starches

There are many safe grains and flours that are suitable for the diet. They are often found in health food stores or online, especially in the gluten-free sections. White rice is the safest.

  • rice bran
  • gluten free flour
  • Cornmeal
  • oat bran
  • quinoa
  • dad
  • White rice
  • white rice noodles
  • white rice wrappers
  • gluten free pasta
  • Gluten-free oats or oats (Many prefer gluten-free).


Real sugar, also known as sucrose, is fine in small amounts. Be careful with 100% fruit spreads. They often use pear juice to sweeten them. Best to stay away from these as pears are a big problem for fruitbearers. Again, always check the labels.

  • Peanut butter (peanuts can cause difficulties in people sensitive to Candida).
  • Jam
  • Jam
  • Maple syrup
  • rice syrup
  • Dextrose
  • Smarties and sweettarts made with dextrose (Check the labels on smarties and sweettarts. Sometimes they use HFCS.)

Fresh fruit)

The amount of these fruits is very important. Do not eat more than the serving size of one small orange at a time. Space each serving out by at least two to three hours.

  • all berries; blueberries, blackberries, cranberries, raspberries, strawberries, etc.
  • Citric fruit; oranges, lemon, grapefruit, lime, tangelo, etc.
  • Cantaloupe
  • durian
  • papaya
  • Avocado (very small amount)
  • passion fruit
  • Ripe banana
  • jack fruit
  • carabola
  • Kiwi
  • pineapple
  • Rhubarb
  • Guava
  • grapes
  • sweet melon
  • Rhubarb
  • Khaki
  • Lychee


Once again, portion sizes are very important. There are variations between the sensitivities of individuals. This is just a guide. Pay attention to your body and use your food journal.

  • Alfalfa
  • Bamboo shoots
  • shoko
  • Chinese cabbage
  • Pepper
  • carrots
  • Fungus
  • Celery (small amount)
  • Zucchini
  • Tomato
  • choysum
  • Corn (small amount)
  • Cucumber
  • Endive
  • Zucchini
  • Tomato
  • dad
  • Eggplant
  • ginger
  • Sweet potato (small amount)
  • lettuce, iceburger
  • olives
  • Parsnip
  • pumpkin
  • silver beet
  • Spinach
  • Pumpkin
  • green beans
  • Turnip

Herbs, Spices and Seasonings

  • thyme
  • extra virgin olive oil
  • Rosemary
  • lemon juice
  • lime juice
  • Basil
  • ginger
  • Pepper
  • cane honey
  • pure maple syrup
  • chives
  • asafoetida powder
  • sea ​​salt
  • cilantro
  • Garlic infused oil
  • Parsley


  • Tea
  • Coffee (regular and decaf)
  • herbal teas
  • Hot water with lemon (highly recommended)

Note: Caffeine can be a gastric irritant. You may want to minimize your caffeine intake if you suspect that caffeine is contributing to your symptoms.

Restriction of wheat and fructans

Wheat-based products are only a problem when wheat is the main ingredient.

When wheat is an ingredient in only small amounts, it’s usually not a problem unless you’re gluten intolerant or have celiac disease.

The diet for fructose malabsorption is low in wheat. You can eat rye, oats, barley, and small amounts of wheat or wheat ingredients. Gluten-free products do not contain wheat, so they are suitable for fructose malabsorption; however, you should still be aware of fructose ingredients like onion, honey, and fruit in these products. There are many wheat ingredients that are safe, since they do not contain large amounts of fructans.

These include:

  • Wheat starch
  • wheat thickeners
  • wheat colored candy
  • wheat maltodextrin
  • wheat dextrin
  • wheat dextrose
  • wheat glucose
  • wheat glucose syrup


Some people can tolerate low lactose cheeses. Some low-lactose cheeses include Swiss, Parmesan, Gouda, Colby, Provolone, Cheddar, Muenster, and Monterey Jack. Lactose-free milk and lactose-free cottage cheese are excellent sources of protein and calcium. Rice milk is another lactose-free alternative. Small servings of yogurt or lactose-free yogurt may be tolerable. Remember to use your food diary. You are a researcher and your intention is to find the healthiest diet for your unique body.

breakfast cereals

Remember to check the labels. HFCS is a popular ingredient in many processed foods, especially cereals.

  • Oats, plain (gluten-free if possible but not necessary)
  • Cornflakes
  • rice bubbles
  • rice puff pastry
  • rice flakes

Nuts and seeds (Suitable in very small quantities)

  • Pumpkin seeds
  • pinions
  • sunflower seeds
  • almonds
  • cashew nuts

I wish you a happy and healthy life of love and prosperity.

Lifestyle Fashion

Understanding Male Psychology: Why Ignoring Your Ex Boyfriend Works

You’ve heard the same advice over and over since the breakup. You are supposed to ignore your ex boyfriend if you want to win him back. At first glance it doesn’t make any sense at all. How can ignoring a man make him decide that he wants you back? The opposite seems much more likely, doesn’t it? Internally, you feel that right now would be the perfect time to pick up the phone and call your ex boyfriend and suggest that you try to work things out. But everyone is yelling at you not to do that. You are confused, you feel hopeless and you are worried that you are going to make a mistake that is going to cost you the man you love. Before you do anything, you need a short and concise lesson in male psychology. There is a very good reason why you should pay attention to those who tell you to forget your ex boyfriend’s phone number, address and place of work.

Right now you are not in control of your failed relationship

After a breakup, the individual who pursues their ex-partner is not in control of the future of the relationship. As women, we often wish we could live our lives on the pages of a romance novel. We imagine that moment when our ex-boyfriend picks up the phone to tell us that he can’t live another day without us. The problem is, in reality, that’s not likely to happen if he’s chasing him endlessly. Your actions really do speak louder than your words in this scenario and your actions are screaming a message that declares out loud, “I’m desperate and I don’t care who knows it.”

He is in full control of what happens next. If he chooses to ignore you, he instinctively knows that you are going to step up your efforts and chase him even more. You’re basically telling him that the more he ignores you, the harder you’ll try. His life revolves around him and that feeds his ego. Most men in this position are not quick to give their ex girlfriend the time of day because they want to see how far she will go in an effort to win him back.

You must change the dynamics of the relationship so that you are the one in control of the future. The best way to do this is to change your own behavior. In fact, you’ll be surprised how quickly he’ll decide he loves you when he suddenly thinks you don’t love him anymore.

Ignoring Your Ex Boyfriend Is More Than Not Replying To His Texts

One mistake many women make when changing their relationship before they start not having contact with their ex-boyfriend is that they tell him of their intentions in such a way that he realizes it’s little more than a game. If you announce to your ex boyfriend that you’re not talking to him anymore and you do it while you’re overly emotional, he’ll see it as a ploy to get him back. His competitive spirit will kick into overdrive and he will go his own way to ignore you. Before you know it, weeks or months will have passed and both of you will be too stubborn to communicate and connect with each other.

It is much better that you let yourself fall off the face of the earth. The best advice you can take is to decide at one point (now is good) that you are not going to talk or try to try again with your ex boyfriend for at least a month. Don’t let anyone know you’re doing this, as mutual friends love to gossip and your ex boyfriend will realize once again that you’re using no contact as a tool to remind him how much he needs you.

Over the next month, do your best to shift your focus to something positive and nurturing. It’s very tempting to sit back and wallow in memories of when the two of you were together, but that won’t accomplish anything productive for you. This should be a month where you rediscover who you are, as a woman, and get in touch with what you want out of life.

Redefine what your life goals are as you distance yourself from your ex

You are in for a couple of pleasant surprises when you start the journey of ignoring your ex boyfriend. First of all, you will be surprised how he responds. Usually a man will love a woman who no longer loves him. Once her ex-boyfriend realizes that he has stopped her endless search to win back her love and devotion, he sets out to win back her heart. It’s amazing how that works. Men are known for wanting things in life that are beyond their reach. When one of those things becomes an ex-girlfriend, a man will put his charm on her into overdrive in an effort to win her back. Basically, if you take away the knowledge that you love him, he will start questioning who you love. Once that happens, he’ll come running back at you with all his strength, trying to get you to explain what’s changed.

The other, more welcome benefit of ignoring your ex boyfriend is that you can finally decide, in an emotionally ordered way, if getting back together is really something you want or need. Things look and feel very different a month after the breakup. Your emotions are settled, your future is less defined, and you are open to a whole range of possibilities.

Giving yourself the opportunity to take a breather from your ex boyfriend is one of the best gifts you can receive. You will finally be able to decide what is best for you and if meeting him is really the best way to make all your romantic dreams come true.