As we go through our life experiences, we begin to be defined by the people with whom we interact. Our parents, our friends, our teachers, our authority figures, and anyone we communicate with begin to place us into personal, social, economic, religious, and sexual classifications, labels, and stereotypes. As human beings, there seems to be a need to define and classify every person, place, and thing around us.
Through words, implications and actions, our subconscious mind begins to form and create
an image of what we think we are. Everything we believe to be true about ourselves begins to manifest in the ego’s illusion. An illusion that we are separate from each other. An illusion that we are different.
We are given labels like rich, poor, smart, stupid, good, bad, ugly, beautiful, insufficient, a success, a failure, etc. The ego begins to collect these labels and strengthens the disappointment of separation. We believe we are what we are told we are. We begin to tell others what we think they are. We label others as we see fit, in the same way that we were labeled. In turn, these limited beliefs that are forced upon us disempower us to truly be who we are. A being of unlimited potential.
Where do these limiting beliefs and negativity originate from? How do we, as a society, create such binding structures within our society that prevent us from realizing our true potential? What can we do as a collective consciousness to cleanse and remove the negative structures within our minds?
What matters now is working together with those in your life and beginning to understand each other better by becoming more in tune with how we relate to each other. We can dissolve old communication structures that no longer benefit us through compassion and understanding. With these virtues we can begin to allow our collective consciousness to ascend and evolve towards a higher state of being. We can free ourselves from our past, both individually and collectively as a planet, and begin to create a future of peace and harmony in our relationships.
Take a moment and become aware of the energy we share. The energy we send to each other on a daily basis. We are in a state of continuous communication with each other. We send each other physical signals, we send each other electrical or energetic signals, and we communicate verbally every day. When we say “I love you”, “I’m mad at you”, “you’re stupid, lazy, overweight, etc” we evoke energy and emotion in the recipient. Even without verbal communication, we send a feeling or vibe to others. When we get angry, happy, sad or feel love for someone, we subconsciously transmit that feeling to them. We don’t need words to tell someone that we don’t care for them. And vice versa. And knowing intuitively when someone likes us.
We can feel it and feel it. What we feel for someone is manifested throughout our interactions. True feelings and thoughts tend to “seep in” subconsciously. If someone is mad at you and you ask “What’s wrong?” they may respond by saying “I’m fine,” but the look they give you shows their anger. We’ve all experienced someone giving us a bad vibe, even if they “seem” nice! The feeling we have in our guts is not consistent with his way of behaving. We tune in to the energy and emotion behind the mask they are wearing and our system tells us what that person is really feeling.
We are, in essence, all sensitive to the vibrations and energies of what others say, think and feel about us. When others say, think, or feel negative things about us, our bodies, minds, and energy systems begin to absorb them like a sponge. Most people who have a lot of negativity have generally absorbed such thoughts and feelings in the developing years of their lives through the way they were raised and treated by others.
When we label people in our minds as rich, poor, smart, stupid, good, bad, ugly, beautiful, not good enough, successful, etc. even if it’s just a thought, the person we’re thinking of can still feel it, if only on a subconscious level. We think to ourselves “That person is annoying.” Apart from them he is truly aware of how we are feeling. In turn, they respond and react to us subconsciously knowing what we are thinking. It becomes a dance of unspoken but understood communication.
Negativity directed at an individual is strengthened if we start using spoken words (even gossiping about someone projects negative energy in their direction). Words have the power to harm or heal. Choosing the right words when dealing with people on a daily basis is important, as one word, positive or negative, can stick with someone for a lifetime.
And I have personally seen many people throughout my life make others feel stupid or diminished simply by the way they are treated, without ever having to say a word. Little actions like raising an eyebrow, furrowing the forehead, holding the chin, or turning away can say a lot. Gestures are usually windows into the emotions we are feeling. And our subconscious minds pick up subtle meanings within the body movements of others and the way they behave. Although the lips lie, the body always tells the truth.
Once we begin to realize these truths, we can begin to practice more mindfulness in the way we think, speak, and interact with others, individually and collectively. If we don’t like someone, being indifferent or neutral towards them nullifies the negativity within our minds and prevents negative energy from being transmitted to them. Of course, it is ultimately more powerful to send them compassion, forgiveness, and yes, even love! Continuing to think negatively about someone only breeds more negativity. And if you can’t think of anything nice to say about someone, how about you don’t think of them at all? (Moms everywhere were right!)
We can start to become aware of and remove the negative words we use from our vocabulary that are designed to put others down and start using respectful and empowering words.
By integrating behaviors like the above into our daily routines, we can end the transmission of negativity and begin to become a source of positive energy. Can you imagine what would happen if only half of the world’s population began to treat each other with this respect?
By ourselves, we can become aware of the labels we carry with us on a daily basis. There may be good labels. Chances are there are negative labels that are holding you back from moving forward in your life. Almost everyone I know has at least one negative label that they carry around like old luggage. Write your labels. Take a good look at what you believe about yourself.
Now looking at the labels, as you read them start to notice the feelings that come up. The emotions that arise. The thoughts they evoke.
And realize that these labels are what you have been implied to be. They are not the real you!
All of them are the result of what they said to you, what they did to you and how others made you feel. She made a subconscious choice at one point to accept, use and represent the labels given to her. Even good labels are usually there because we feel good about something we accomplished. We accept both the good and the bad. And we believe that this is who we are.
The truth is that we carry all possible labels within each of us. We can all be smart, we can all make mistakes and feel stupid at times, we can be beautiful or we can be ugly, we can be driven or we can be lazy, we can be a success or a failure. All these labels have always been there within us, waiting for a situation to arise that makes them emerge. We can learn from these labels because they are simply a part of us. We can take the lesson we learned from being angry, unsuccessful, sad, etc. and start deciding to use another label, another facet of who we are.
Because we contain all the labels, we have unlimited potential within us. We can begin to make a conscious decision to only use the labels that are valid for us at the moment we are in and we can choose to be any label at any time. We can remove the labels that no longer apply to us and file them away in the trash!
Knowing that you have a choice as to who you are, what labels will you choose to use today?
A consultant hypnotherapist, hypnotist or NLP practitioner can help you remove limiting labels and beliefs. If there is a label that is strongly embedded in your subconscious mind, I would recommend finding a local hypnotist in your area for a consultation to see if hypnosis can help.
