Humor helps us all cope with the aging process
Time has passed so quickly for me that it worries me! Now, in my early 60s, it seems like yesterday, that I was in the Air Force (on our side), and I was sitting with some friends at the NCO Club, having a beer and listening to the Beatles and the Rolling Stones. stones. And, today (2006), half of the Beatles are gone and those who remain are over sixty years old! That’s scary… isn’t it?
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The following article on humor and aging is presented here for your information/education and was published in the Albuquerque Journal, Mature New Mexico Magazine. It was written by Corky Vann of the Los Angeles Times. In this article, I will quote from the article; paraphrase as necessary; And I’ll give my grain of sand, for what it’s worth!
Article: “When Sandy Moehle received a birthday card that said, ‘Old age is not for sissies,’ her sentiment summed up her feelings about dealing with the physical and mental challenges of aging. It also made her laugh! ‘I’m going to put this saying in my office,’ says Moehle, 59. ‘Some parts of aging are a real pain, but seeing the humor in them makes the process easier to manage.'”
My two cents: I think old age is one of the worst things that can happen to anyone, but we’re all going to have to deal with it…if any of us make it that far, etc. “Does life begin at 60?” (Shut up!) Now that I’m past the 60 mark, I’m getting more and more worried about it! I see other people…the “before” and the “after” and I don’t like what I see. In this society, there are four age groups; the young man; middle aged; the old; and “Wow, you sure look good these days!” I don’t want to go into that last category!
Article: “Steven M. Sultanoff, a California clinical psychologist and former president of the American Association for Therapeutic Humor and a self-described “myrtologist,” says the benefits of laughter are no joke. Learning to enjoy life’s ups and downs reduces stress improves communications energizes relationships and generally makes people feel better.”Studies show that humor can be dangerous for your illness,” writes Sultanoff, who maintains the website (humormatters.com). , which includes an extensive section dedicated to humor related to aging”.
My two hundred: My father and I are as different as black and white. He lived to be 80 years old, and I don’t know how he did it! He never went to a doctor in his life! He was one of those “doctor-phobics”, who is afraid of everything medical…needles; plastic pipes, etc. He was a heavy smoker most of his life, and because of this, he never lived a quality life, because he was always sick of something! My father never exercised. If he were to ask him if he would walk around the block, his response would be, “Why should I walk, when I can drive around the block faster?”
On the other hand, I’ve always taken care of myself… walking and jogging 10-15 miles a week, and “pumping aluminum,” for the last 20 years! I get a flu shot every year; teeth cleaning; a physical exam every year; leave the tuxedo; drink very little; watch my diet and have never taken drugs of any kind! I watch my diet. But, in the future, I worry because it’s probably just my luck that I get hit by a spinach or turnip truck… on my way to the health store to pick up some asparagus!
Article: “Research has clearly indicated that negative thinking and emotional distress lead to illness. Humor changes negative thinking and emotional distress and therefore can be a powerful health intervention.” Research, though limited, indicates that laughing improves the immune system, reduces stress, and builds pain tolerance. Humor has also proven to be a valuable tool for people facing serious illness and medical treatment.”
My two cents: I think everyone will agree with me, that we are all looking for a quality of life! But, how can a person have quality of life, if that person is sick all the time like my father? The name of the game for me is prevention! There are some people who exercise every week by clicking and double clicking…that’s it! Come on… can we talk?
Article: “Forget the concept of ‘it only hurts when I laugh,’ says author and humorist Loretta LaRoche. ‘The truth is… it hurts more when you don’t laugh!’ LaRoche, 62, acknowledges that while poor health, loss of loved ones and other realities of aging aren’t funny, a sense of humor is one of the best coping mechanisms. says LaRoche, who recently released an audiotape titled ‘Growing Old With Humor.’ ‘Find your inner sitcom and make your last act a comedy!'”
My two cents: None of us can turn back the clock! When my wife’s parents were in their 80s, they downsized and moved into an apartment that catered to the elderly and had a medical staff available, etc. And I used to go with my wife to visit her parents, but I didn’t like going there. Her parents were in good shape, but it was depressing to see some of the other old people sitting in a wheelchair… slumped over… with their heads lolling to one side or the other… and no one around! ! They just sat there as if there was no life in the body, and a person feels so helpless because none of us can do anything about the problem!
Feature: A New Book May Help, “Age Doesn’t Matter Unless You’re Cheese: Wisdom From Our Elders,” by Katherine and Ross Petras, is a collection of 350 notable quotes about aging. You won’t find any stereotypical “old man” humor here. Each contributor’s quotes are serious reflections on the aging process, many of which include the title, they are hilarious observations on the ‘golden years’. A couple of examples:
“A stockbroker urged me to buy a stock that would triple every year. I told him that at my age, I don’t even buy green bananas!” Claude Pepper/US Senator
“I have everything now that I had 20 years ago… except now it’s all lower!” gypsy rose lee
Carter Henderson, author of ‘Funny, I don’t Feel Old: How to Flourish after 50’. He says older adults should focus less on the pitfalls of aging and more on what makes them smile…and he works hard to follow his own advice.”
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For those of you who would like more information on senior issues… a good place to start is to go to the website: Suddenly Senior (suddenlysenior.com) (worldlaughtertour.com)
Bottom line… age is just a number, right? (boo-hoo!) I’ve been really forgetful lately, so I’m worried about getting Alzheimer’s too! If I DO have Alzheimer’s… there will be one positive thing that can come of it… I will be able to hide my own Easter eggs!