Sex. It’s everywhere! On TV, in magazines, on billboards. How is it possible that a topic that is so often written about and talked about has so much misinformation?

It’s pretty safe to say that the topic of sex pretty much consumes us as a society. I don’t think there is an issue of any women’s magazine that does not contain at least one article on sex! Television, Internet and radio shows offer countless shows and programs that offer a ton of sexual information.

Despite our obsession with the subject and the deluge of information, there is so much false information floating around that I thought it might be a little helpful to separate fact from fiction when it comes to some questions about sex.

Myth #1: If you have to schedule sex with your partner it can’t be good!! Than?? If you have to wait for a spontaneous or “right” time to have sex while holding a job, raising your kids, making dinner, cleaning your house, etc., etc., etc., chances are good that time will come. “right moment”. “It’s never going to happen! So the question really is, ‘Is it better to have scheduled sex or no sex at all?’ I don’t think anyone needs a relationship expert to answer that!

Myth #2: Great sex is defined only by having an orgasm!

There’s this whole myth that reaching orgasm defines great sex! Is not true. The goal of great sex is to create a special intimate moment between you and your partner – emotionally, physically, and spiritually! Sure, orgasm may be a natural extension and expression of intimate moments, but it doesn’t define it! Therefore, the best way for any couple to define good sex is to communicate what intimacy means to you, both physically and emotionally, and to have your specific needs and desires determine what good sex means to you.

Myth #3: The longer the sex lasts, the better.

Sex is not meant to be an act of resistance: it is meant to be a moment and an expression of intimacy! I hate to break it to you (especially you guys), but current research suggests that the average duration of sex lasts between 3 and 10 minutes; anything longer than that is by definition not average. Hopefully this little bit of information will take some of the pressure off couples who aren’t having marathon sexual interludes! (psst – no one else is, we’re on a regular basis either)!

Remember, sexual intercourse is not the only act a couple can do to feel close and loved by each other. Foreplay, which can include tender moments of kissing, massage, and even pillow talk, is a great way to express love, intimacy, and passion between you and your partner.