Get the keys that help millions unlock the door to an exciting and exciting life and also transcend the typical divorce baggage in the highlights from Part 1 of my radio talk for Lasting Love with Janet Bray Attwood.

Janet is the NY Times best-selling co-author of The Passion Test: Discovering the Effortless Path to Your Destination. She has helped millions of people find the easy and exciting path to the life you love.

Hadley: Passion is the key to your destiny. Let’s help people who want even more love and excitement in life. Let’s help people go from where you are now to where you want to be, reaching the peak of passion, pleasure and performance in life and love.

When you embark on a new journey, you need a new map to guide you. His new map is The Passion Test. It has helped millions of people effortlessly find their way to an exciting, fun, and fulfilling destination. Janet, tell us how you were guided to find an effortless path to your own destination during an early trip to India.

Janet: He guided me down one of my paths, which was interviewing teachers from all over the world. At The Passion Test, we say that when you are clear about what you choose to show in your life, it will, and only to the extent that you are clear about it. That was something that I was very clear about, because it was a great love of mine, since I went to India more than five times.

Hadley: Aren’t you in India now?

Janet: Right now, I’m in Germany with Chris Atwood, my co-author of The Passion Test. He is also my ex-husband, my best friend, and my business partner. I stay with his wife, his wife’s mother, and his two daughters. I am his godmother.

Hadley: It’s amazing how you and Chris can go through a divorce, and end up being loving and friendly business partners, godmother to your ex-husband’s children, and friend to his wife. How did you make that happen?

Janet: The world is the way you are. The world will reflect how you are with yourself. Both Chris and I have practiced TM mediation for many years. That really helped with the transition from getting divorced. We did not go to war with each other. We just realized that the relationship as we knew it was over.

We also knew it was crazy for people who had fallen in love, who had said, “I love you forever” and then just because something goes wrong they decide they can’t see each other again and become mortal enemies. . Chris and I found that crazy.

Here’s someone he loved more than anyone else in the world. Just because they didn’t do things your way or you didn’t do things their way, you think you can’t be in the other’s world. We think: “How sad is that.”

Chris and I also practice Byron Katie’s work.

Hadley: I love your “change procedure”.

Janet. It is a process of undoing limiting beliefs. Byron Katie says that when you are attached to how things should be instead of how things are, you will feel one of three things: pain, separation, and suffering.

Chris and I are strong advocates of consciously loving what is. So don’t let the concepts ruin your world. It is a concept that an ex-wife cannot be the best friend of a new wife. When we allow these concepts to take over our world, our world becomes very small and very limited.

Byron Katie says that until you can say to a loved one walking out the door, “Honey, let me help you pack,” you’re still not there. Love is unconditional when you allow someone to walk the path they need.

Hadley: You make it sound easy, but that was the hardest journey I ever took – getting to the point where I could wish my husband the best after he moved out.

Janet: If you think about it, it’s harder to hold onto your pain, separation, stories about what others have done to you.

Hadley: That pain can be fatal if you don’t release it.

Janet: So walk from the place where there are no victims here. You create your reality. See that every moment is a gift. That sounds trite but true. The Universe is configured so that each moment serves in some way.

Nobody said it was easy. However, it is much more difficult not to be that loving presence and hold on to that pain. You can release it and do it in a way where you come out of your gut that I want for you what you want for yourself. Until you get to that place, it is more painful than not.

Hadley: I agree. It is good to thank your best teachers for giving you the lessons you needed to learn at the time, to see with new eyes.

Janet: And you can use tools like Byron Katie’s work to undo limiting beliefs that will change your life in minutes. Using the passion test is a tool. The reason you wake up dissatisfied with your life is that you are not making decisions about how to do your own inner work, because the world is the way you are. If you are love inside, you attract love.

They are all a reflection of where we are at this moment. So dive into the cracks of the soul and forgive, surrender, appreciate and undo, letting go of the concepts that create terrorism in the mind.

Hadley: You are an inspiration to everyone. How do we find clues about the best way to an exciting and exciting life?

Find out in Part 2, the highlight of my radio talk with Janet Bray Attwood for A Lasting Love.