Getting back with someone who broke up with you is really an art form. It requires skill and luck, patience, perseverance, and knowledge.

Above all, it requires close Perfect moment.

Knowing when to reconnect with an ex boyfriend is tricky. You want to leave him alone for a while, so he can miss you, but you also want to stay in the back of his mind.

If you wait too long to get back in touch after the breakup, you could lose him forever. But did you try to call or contact too soon? Well that will surely lead you in the opposite direction.

so when can call your ex How long should you wait before texting or contacting him again? Is there a hard and fast rule?

Even better, are there ways to get HIM to call you?

Why No Contact Is Important After A Breakup

Right now, you are probably going through one of the worst heartaches of your life. You’re nothungry. You are not interested in anything. All you can think about is your ex boyfriend and how lonely he feels without him.

That’s because you miss it.

In order for your ex to love you again, they will first need to miss you. And to miss you, guess what?

You’re going to have to go.

It only makes sense: if you’re still hanging around, if you’re still visually and emotionally available, if you’re still trying to call, contact, or text your ex boyfriend, chances are he won’t miss you. absolutely. That’s because he still has you. One way or another.

Now let’s say you haven’t called your ex at all. You didn’t run to Facebook to change your status, like an abandoned ex-lover. You haven’t been stalking his Facebook page, you haven’t liked his posts, you haven’t checked his Instagram or any of the things you used to do when the two of you were together.

Your boyfriend, of course, knows. That’s because after the breakup, he’s looking at you. Knowing that you still love him is comforting to him. But not seeing you at all? it’s uncomfortable, unsettling, and over time it may even make you question the decision to break up.

This is what you want. By creating doubts in the mind of your ex boyfriend, you create value. Suddenly, you are a commodity that probably should have stayed. Over time, he realizes that he should never have let you go.

Rekindle old feelings after the no-contact phase

If you think about the origins of your relationship, you will remember a time when everything was golden. You and your boyfriend never got into a fight. You couldn’t bear to be separated from each other. You two texted and called all the time, he did sweet things for you and every time you fell on the bed you had amazing sex.

This stage of romance is where the two of you forged deep connections and emotional bonds. Those kinds of feelings blossomed as they continued to see each other. Roots grew. They formed the very foundation of the relationship.

Now, when did your boyfriend break up with you? It is not because these connections suddenly evaporated. They did not disappear overnight; in fact, they didn’t disappear at all. Your boyfriend BURIED THEM in light of his decision to break things up.

Burying these feelings doesn’t kill them completely. Over time, yes, but not in the days or weeks after your breakup. Your ex is NOT intentionally calling you and is NOT seeing you because any kind of contact would only arouse those feelings.

But wait … isn’t this a good thing?

No, not if you want it back.

Throwing those emotional connections in your boyfriend’s face will only anger him right now. Right now, in your book, any effort like that on your part is purely selfish. You’re throwing those things at him to MAKE him love you. Not only that not It works, but in all honesty, you don’t want to “force” your boyfriend to do anything.

You want him come to those conclusions on your own.

Any new relationship you have with your ex boyfriend should be based on what he think to be your terms. With some knowledge of how to do this and a little practice, you can manipulate it to make it think this way.

There are fast forward techniques that you can use to speed up the creation process, but only if you implement them subtly. They must be used with care and must be executed at exactly the right time.